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so sick of hearing....
| Mon, 08-06-2007 - 1:34pm |
hello everyone!! i just read the cnn article on how burnt out and guilty the working mom is...and how hard it is to incorparate "quality" time...and all i can say is WILL YOU COME OFF IT PLEASE!! i work-40 hours a week; sometimes 6 days a week to get all my hours...and i have 2 children-7 and 3...and you know what-every day during the school year, i walk my dd to school...i volunteer at my dds school-in her classroom and on field trips-i have the last 2 years and plan to do more of the same this coming year...i keep the house clean-do the dishes and laundry, go grocery shopping, etc. and you know what-neither of my kids feel slighted. we just took a week long vacation where we went to an amusement park and then to visit my sil for a few days...they have a lil shallow pool-and i go "swimming" with them often-usually before i go off to the adult world of work...we go on shopping trips with my mom and visit a cousin who has a huge pool and the adults play cards outside on the deck when the kids swim...we play games, we take walks, we go to parks...it just boggles my mind. yes i get tired-and yes there are days i wish i didnt have to go in to work...but then theres days that i cant wait until i go in-some women are meant to stay at home and theyre happy doing it...and some women are meant to work outside the home-i need that adult stimulation-i need my friends and my friends are all behind that deli counter with me...again i dont feel my kids are slighted in the least-my own mom was a stay at homer and she didnt volunteer at school and we never took the kinds of trips and outings my kids are lucky enough to have on a regular basis...i dont feel guilty when im at work-i dont think being a working mom hurts my kids...im getting sick and tired of hearing how unhappy working moms are, or how guilty i should feel cuz im not with my kids 24/7...maybe im the exception...or maybe the media focuses too much on the exceptions and a lot of working mommies feel like me...??? take care!!
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com

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I gave up lots of those kinds of things when I became a single wage earner (aka...single mom). I had no money to get my hair cut -- never mind getting it colored or highlighted. I had to resort to doing it myself (I don't do such a great job, LOL!). I had to go about 4-5 weeks in between nail appointments and certainly no pedicures. The only dinner out was Subway (about $3.50 per sub) and, at times, I had to scrounge through the car for change to buy gasoline.
i like being a dual-wohp again....breathing room -- and room to enjoy ourselves.
Carole
Yeah well, that's just, ya know, like, your opinion, man-The Big Lebowski
Yes. We. Did.
Well since you also don't know my family situation and keep make assumptions about our spending, how is that being any different than me not knowing your family and saying that I think it benefits all children to be cared for by their parents?
Shari mother to
It's nice that your family will help you, but
Yeah well, that's just, ya know, like, your opinion, man-The Big Lebowski
"I think it benefits all children to be cared for by their parents?"
Since you are against WOH, I have to assume that you mean cared for by their parents all the time or the vast majority of time anyway. You still have not explained WHY you think this is so. Nor have you explained how it is worse for kids to be in daycare or some other kind of non-parent care some of the time. The fact that YOU wanted more time with YOUR mother when YOU were a child is obviously not a reason.
Yeah well, that's just, ya know, like, your opinion, man-The Big Lebowski
Yeah well, that's just, ya know, like, your opinion, man-The Big Lebowski
Yes we have a savings and we try to keep the money in it for a real emergency.
Shari mother to
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