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so sick of hearing....
| Mon, 08-06-2007 - 1:34pm |
hello everyone!! i just read the cnn article on how burnt out and guilty the working mom is...and how hard it is to incorparate "quality" time...and all i can say is WILL YOU COME OFF IT PLEASE!! i work-40 hours a week; sometimes 6 days a week to get all my hours...and i have 2 children-7 and 3...and you know what-every day during the school year, i walk my dd to school...i volunteer at my dds school-in her classroom and on field trips-i have the last 2 years and plan to do more of the same this coming year...i keep the house clean-do the dishes and laundry, go grocery shopping, etc. and you know what-neither of my kids feel slighted. we just took a week long vacation where we went to an amusement park and then to visit my sil for a few days...they have a lil shallow pool-and i go "swimming" with them often-usually before i go off to the adult world of work...we go on shopping trips with my mom and visit a cousin who has a huge pool and the adults play cards outside on the deck when the kids swim...we play games, we take walks, we go to parks...it just boggles my mind. yes i get tired-and yes there are days i wish i didnt have to go in to work...but then theres days that i cant wait until i go in-some women are meant to stay at home and theyre happy doing it...and some women are meant to work outside the home-i need that adult stimulation-i need my friends and my friends are all behind that deli counter with me...again i dont feel my kids are slighted in the least-my own mom was a stay at homer and she didnt volunteer at school and we never took the kinds of trips and outings my kids are lucky enough to have on a regular basis...i dont feel guilty when im at work-i dont think being a working mom hurts my kids...im getting sick and tired of hearing how unhappy working moms are, or how guilty i should feel cuz im not with my kids 24/7...maybe im the exception...or maybe the media focuses too much on the exceptions and a lot of working mommies feel like me...??? take care!!
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com

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Yes. We. Did.
and for what it's worth I feel the same about the fact that I only see my daughter every other week, she doesn't magically forget me on the weeks she's at her dads house!
Yes. We. Did.
It does doesnt it.
Wanting to be there for the "firsts" is selfish. It is something you do solely for YOU, the kid could not care less. In fact, most of the reasons that have been offered so far for why one would SAH are similar, wanting to be the sole influence, wanting to avoid feeling guilty and so on.
BTW, you still have not explained why it is harmful to kids to be in othercare and have working parents. All you have offered so far is that if the mnother works for "extras" then her working teaches bad values. It has been pointed out to you that many mothers work neither out of need, nor for extras, so that pretty much kills that one as a universal harm from having a WOHM. Are there some other reasons that you can think of?
<<I think children are about making sacrifices and you can defend your working anyway you want, but the most important thing to children is their parents time.
PumpkinAngel
ofcorse not.
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