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so sick of hearing....
| Mon, 08-06-2007 - 1:34pm |
hello everyone!! i just read the cnn article on how burnt out and guilty the working mom is...and how hard it is to incorparate "quality" time...and all i can say is WILL YOU COME OFF IT PLEASE!! i work-40 hours a week; sometimes 6 days a week to get all my hours...and i have 2 children-7 and 3...and you know what-every day during the school year, i walk my dd to school...i volunteer at my dds school-in her classroom and on field trips-i have the last 2 years and plan to do more of the same this coming year...i keep the house clean-do the dishes and laundry, go grocery shopping, etc. and you know what-neither of my kids feel slighted. we just took a week long vacation where we went to an amusement park and then to visit my sil for a few days...they have a lil shallow pool-and i go "swimming" with them often-usually before i go off to the adult world of work...we go on shopping trips with my mom and visit a cousin who has a huge pool and the adults play cards outside on the deck when the kids swim...we play games, we take walks, we go to parks...it just boggles my mind. yes i get tired-and yes there are days i wish i didnt have to go in to work...but then theres days that i cant wait until i go in-some women are meant to stay at home and theyre happy doing it...and some women are meant to work outside the home-i need that adult stimulation-i need my friends and my friends are all behind that deli counter with me...again i dont feel my kids are slighted in the least-my own mom was a stay at homer and she didnt volunteer at school and we never took the kinds of trips and outings my kids are lucky enough to have on a regular basis...i dont feel guilty when im at work-i dont think being a working mom hurts my kids...im getting sick and tired of hearing how unhappy working moms are, or how guilty i should feel cuz im not with my kids 24/7...maybe im the exception...or maybe the media focuses too much on the exceptions and a lot of working mommies feel like me...??? take care!!
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com

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silly Lois! Don't you know when the big stwong man works all those hours he's a "go getter!" "agressive!" a "good provider!" a "born leader!"
When the silly woman wants to work all those hours so she too can have a cool car or a trip to the islands she's "cold and calculating" "turning her back on her true role as a mom" "a selfish b*tch" "emasculating her husband" and "trying to wear the pants!"
don't make them get out the flip charts and the diagrams.
Yes. We. Did.
That's the nice thing about our economy--the rich buying their "extras" allow the rest of us to buy our needs.
Chris
The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett
It certainly is better for our family. Dh is so much easier to live with when the entire family budget doesn't fall all one his shoulders.
Chris
The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett
You don't have to agree, especially since you can't/won't define what is universally "better" nor have you provided universal consequences.
PumpkinAngel
Because I don't focus on all the housework, cooking, laundry alone. All three are a group effort between dh, me, and our kids. No one in our family does it all. And none of it takes much more than about 14 hours a week, even when all of us were at home, leaving a lot of time for individual time with each child. And my girls have been very vocal about our rating as parents. They are adults, after all, and no longer live at home. Some things they wish had been different but over all they do think that they had a good childhood, regardless of dh's and my work status. They think the same thing about Dylan's childhood. Joy has said so on this very board.
Chris
The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett
HEY now...I"ll have you know that...
lesbo doesn't have an "e" on the end.
and frankly Kelly and I prefer "great big queers" ;-) Although sometimes when I'm in my overalls with a tank top underneath and a baseball hat she does have this hysterical way of looking at me and saying "dyyyyyykeeeeee" that cracks me up every time.
Yes. We. Did.
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