I have known a lot of families with sahms who stuggled.
Huh? Where did I mention COL or SES? Talk about a non sequitur.
What do you mean when you say COL does not impact SES?
that's just one of the reasons that we pushed a state school AND living at home.
Well, since income and wealth are two of the determining attibutes of ses along with education and occupation, just how do you remove "cost of living" when you factor ses?
How does COL "NOT" play a part in SES????
Actually, the rich get a lot more free stuff than the poor. It doesn't sound logical, but it's true. And by rich, I don't mean celebrity rich, I mean upper middle class.
I think this really depends on where you live. Here in eastern MA, if you can SAH without denying your family any of the basics, you're probably upper middle class. Yeah, there are exceptions, but in general, if you can afford a SAHP, you're pretty well off.
In Texas, where we lived in the late 90s, there were lots of middle and even lower-middle class families with a SAH parent, usually a mom, who lived fairly well.
In large European cities, I can't imagine too many middle class families being able to afford a SAHP without a huge sacrifice. We rented an apartment (vacation rental)for a week
"they are just life choices and are not directly related to working status."
Across the board, I don't disagree with that, and I definitely wasn't saying those things are exclusive to families with a SAHP. Personally, I have a hard time fitting in everything I want to do as it is, but I wasn't suggesting others can't. I was just giving an example of things we've done differently so we don't struggle financially or do without with me SAH, despite not being anywhere near upper middle class.
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