Solve my midlife crisis!

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Registered: 05-27-1998
Solve my midlife crisis!
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Thu, 08-04-2011 - 4:14pm

A year ago, I would never have believed I could be in this situation, but a lot of things have changed. No arrows, please.

For the past 7 years, I've had a volunteer position in an international Christian organization that took up a lot of my free time. I did it because I loved it. I have also been the director of Christian education for my church, a job I also loved (not because it paid well, LOL). Starting in October, my teenage daughter began experiencing a severe mental health crisis that seemed to come out of nowhere, although we have a strong family history of depression on both sides. She is doing much better now, but the months of distress really took its toll on me. (My son already had ongoing issues related to a similar diagnosis and issues with Asperger's).) In May, I resigned from the organization and announced my intention to step down from my church job. I'm just staying to get them thru the fall Sunday school start-up.

While all this was going on, DH's company went thru a reorg, and he decided to take a severance package rather than work for someone he did not respect. He left that company in June. A few weeks later, he accepted a consulting position that is based in London. He now travels there twice a month for about 10 days at a time, and will have to go to other places, such as Singapore and parts of Africa. This may or may not turn into a full-time position. If it does, we will likely move to London. In the meantime, we are in limbo.

Here's the tough part: my kids will be going to a private high school that is 25 miles away. This basically means I'll be driving 500 miles a week. I'm thankful that I now have the flexibility to do this, but am not at all looking forward to it.

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Mon, 08-08-2011 - 6:15am

ok.

 

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Mon, 08-08-2011 - 6:13am

my mother and her sister never learned to drive, neither did my grandmother.

 

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Registered: 05-13-2009
Sun, 08-07-2011 - 6:35pm
We have 2 cars and a truck for soon to be 3 drivers. We will let her use one of our vehicles; she does not have her own car.

We knew the mileage we would put on our car when she chose her high school. It is the same distance away as our public high school, though that hs some busing available. My son will attend the public hs, but I'll have to pick him up most days because of his after school activities.

We chose to live far off the beaten path for our personal qol choices. We buy used fuel efficient vehicles, maintain them well, and drive them until they are no longer cost effective, usually @ 175k+ miles.
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Registered: 05-27-1998
Sun, 08-07-2011 - 3:24pm

The more hours, the better. Here, with the 12 hours of required instruction by a driving school and the 30 hours of parent instruction, it comes to

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Registered: 07-17-2007
Sun, 08-07-2011 - 11:51am

Virginia has the same requirement, but it is 45 hours.

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Registered: 08-22-2009
Sun, 08-07-2011 - 7:23am

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Sun, 08-07-2011 - 7:12am

my sister never learned to drive,

 

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Sun, 08-07-2011 - 6:09am

that's interesting and smart, 20 hours is a lot of time.

 

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Sun, 08-07-2011 - 5:54am

your DD has her own car, then?

 

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Registered: 02-24-2009
Sun, 08-07-2011 - 3:59am

That's funny. My dd would SOL on that one, since I don't know how to drive and her dad does not have a license (never bothered to renew). Even if he did, I really can't see him teaching her how to drive.

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