Solve my midlife crisis!

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Registered: 05-27-1998
Solve my midlife crisis!
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Thu, 08-04-2011 - 4:14pm

A year ago, I would never have believed I could be in this situation, but a lot of things have changed. No arrows, please.

For the past 7 years, I've had a volunteer position in an international Christian organization that took up a lot of my free time. I did it because I loved it. I have also been the director of Christian education for my church, a job I also loved (not because it paid well, LOL). Starting in October, my teenage daughter began experiencing a severe mental health crisis that seemed to come out of nowhere, although we have a strong family history of depression on both sides. She is doing much better now, but the months of distress really took its toll on me. (My son already had ongoing issues related to a similar diagnosis and issues with Asperger's).) In May, I resigned from the organization and announced my intention to step down from my church job. I'm just staying to get them thru the fall Sunday school start-up.

While all this was going on, DH's company went thru a reorg, and he decided to take a severance package rather than work for someone he did not respect. He left that company in June. A few weeks later, he accepted a consulting position that is based in London. He now travels there twice a month for about 10 days at a time, and will have to go to other places, such as Singapore and parts of Africa. This may or may not turn into a full-time position. If it does, we will likely move to London. In the meantime, we are in limbo.

Here's the tough part: my kids will be going to a private high school that is 25 miles away. This basically means I'll be driving 500 miles a week. I'm thankful that I now have the flexibility to do this, but am not at all looking forward to it.

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Registered: 05-13-2009
Fri, 08-05-2011 - 5:04pm
Will your oldest child be getting her license soon? I'm finally free of 20+mi twice daily commute because my dd will be able to drive herself to high school this year. She's a junior.

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Registered: 07-17-2007
Fri, 08-05-2011 - 6:27pm

Good point.

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Registered: 01-08-2009
Fri, 08-05-2011 - 7:31pm
Will your daughter become a driver at any point during the school year?
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Registered: 05-27-1998
Fri, 08-05-2011 - 7:39pm

Funny you should mention this. She just got her permit this week, and now has to wait 6 months until she gets her license. (You have to be 16 1/2 at the earliest here.) She will be able to drive her brother to school then, but I don't think I want her on some of those roads until we're all really confident about it. The winters are bad here, and driving on icy roads takes practice.

I'm thinking I'll drive them all next year, then she can do the driving her senior year. After that, DS will be old enough to drive himself.

One year of hellish driving is okay, right?

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Registered: 07-17-2007
Fri, 08-05-2011 - 7:43pm

One year of hellish driving is tolerable. :smileyhappy:

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Registered: 05-27-1998
Fri, 08-05-2011 - 7:48pm

I think this is a good idea, but DH is only willing to sell this place

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Registered: 08-22-2009
Fri, 08-05-2011 - 7:53pm

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Registered: 05-27-1998
Fri, 08-05-2011 - 8:10pm

One good thing is that she has

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Registered: 08-22-2009
Fri, 08-05-2011 - 8:16pm

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Registered: 05-13-2009
Fri, 08-05-2011 - 9:18pm
My daughter has had her permit for almost 6mos; she gets her license next week. It's been an experience, but her driving has dramatically improved to the point that I don't always use the none existent pedals on the passenger slide of the car anymore. She will drive herself to school this fall. We'll evaluate when the bad weather occurs.

If your daughter's driving progresses like mine, you'll probably let her start driving to school in the late spring.

It's not really hellish driving, it's the hellish vision of letting them do it and another milestone about letting my baby go.