Sometimes it is hard.................

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Registered: 04-09-2003
Sometimes it is hard.................
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Thu, 05-15-2003 - 1:31am
But, I have made a decision not to take on law school right now. It was hard because I wanted it for so long. This was my decision.

With that being said, my son is more important to me right now that law school. The school will always be there, my son won't.

The right decision is always hard to make. But I feel at peace over this.

Thanks for everyones advice, it really helped, even though the majority said go, if that is what you want. But, it is not in the best interest for my son and husband. Not now, maybe later. I believe in destiny, and that things happen for the right reason.

Again, thanks.

C

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 05-15-2003 - 2:40pm
I sure hope your DH and DS appreciate your sacrifice - and DH doesn't dump you.

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Thu, 05-15-2003 - 2:44pm
Why would he dumb me? This was my decision.


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Thu, 05-15-2003 - 2:51pm
Can I ask you something? What do you think when people say that they (or anybody) can just go back to law school, go back to vet school, go back and get an undergraduate degree, or anything like that?

As a lawyer, specifically, what do you think about the law school question?

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Thu, 05-15-2003 - 3:50pm
I don't mean dump you BECAUSE of this decision, I mean EVER. You are making a major personal sacrifice for your family. You really have to trust that the "family only" route is going to give you long term security. I agree, it's a very hard choice. Makes me glad I was able to get through school before I ever even met my DH.

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Thu, 05-15-2003 - 3:54pm
I'm really not qualified to say how easy it is to go to college as an older student, or to go through any of the other grad programs. For law though, I'm pretty sure that older (meaning not straight out of college, straight out of high school) students do BETTER than average. The maturity factor really seems to help with the incredible grind, and students with families have more structure and stability. Having said that, regardless of your age, you have to have really good, developed study habits and discipline. The average age of entering students in my class was 26.

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Thu, 05-15-2003 - 8:37pm
I did it/am doing it. Went back to school when my ds was about 8mo. I've been plugging away pt for 3 years now. Happy to say that most of the time my gpa runs between 3.75 and 3.5 (okay after this semester and the lovely biology class I took, maybe 3.0 right now..sigh). Thats with juggling 2 kids, dh, house, rental property, working pt, 5 pets, travel, and more. I feel like I am much more focused than a lot of younger people in my classes, and I have found this to be true for most adults I know who went back. The college I attend has something like 60 percent of older adults.

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Fri, 05-16-2003 - 10:18am
Just curious. Actually, it's true that older students in general have higher grades, because they take school more seriously and they dedicate more time to it. But, I'd think the ones whose kids are grown or who have already worked for a long time would do better than the ones who are right in the thick of raising a family.

That's interesting about the average age, though. I wonder why that is?

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Fri, 05-16-2003 - 10:24am
Actually, as I mentioned someplace else, non-traditional students do have higher grades on average, since they commit more time and effort to their studies. It depends on the college of course, but many of them are very accomodating toward older students with other responsibilities.

I went to college and graduate school at the traditional ages, then went back to graduate school again after I was married and had a child. I wouldn't say one was better or worse, or harder or easier, just that the two experiences are different.

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Fri, 05-16-2003 - 10:48am
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I think that was out of line. I think this is irrelevent. She is making a decision for her family that she feels is best. Many women (myself included) don't make decisions on the fear that our DH might leave us. Yep...Me too...I was in nursing school, on the dean's list, getting a FREE education. I got pregnant, and I dropped it all. It was best for my children, my husband, and my family. When my kids are all in school, I will go back. Maybe you live with a fear that you won't be able to take care of your kids if your DH left you. I don't think that way. Doesn't sound like the OP does either.

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Fri, 05-16-2003 - 10:54am
I commend your decision. It is great you have peace with it. It is a hard decision to make. I was in nursing school when I got pregnant with DS. The pregnancy wasn't planned, and my DH and I made the decision for me to stay home. He left it up to me what I wanted to do. I had a free ride and was getting a great education. I was sad to leave it, but I too made peace with it. I love the decision I made today and glad I made the decision. I will be going back when my DS and my last baby (now 1) are in school. I look at it the way you did. School will always be there...My babies won't be babies for long. Good Luck!

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