Speaking of having 3 kids...

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Speaking of having 3 kids...
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Mon, 04-07-2008 - 3:21pm

Any comments on this editorial that ran yesterday?


http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2008/04/04/AR2008040403217.html


I really object to the line that says that a family with just two kids is minimalist and "even a little sad."


Any other comments?


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Mon, 04-07-2008 - 3:30pm
Why would you object to a woman who grew up in a large family saying that to them, a family with just two kids seemed minimalist and a little sad? If people want no kids, one kid is too many. But if people are imagining a family of four kids, two can seem minimalist, sad, incomplete, whatever.
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Mon, 04-07-2008 - 3:32pm
OW! My eyes! They rolled so hard I had to pry them out of the back of my head. As the parent of one (and you the parent of two) the whole "minimalist and a little bit sad" thing is ridiculous. And so is the whole (New York-ish?) idea that 3 or more is an ostentatious show-off of wealth. I think she (and probably a lot of fellow New Yorkers, if many think this) have overthought their child rearing and are looking at children just as a form of parental self-expression rather than as individual people. There is nothing sad about one or two children. And calling it minimalist makes it sound like children are literally decorative objects, not separate people. Minimalism is a term you use for design. Using it to refer to families really makes me think that she is trapped in a "children as accessories" mindset.
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Mon, 04-07-2008 - 3:41pm

Agreed.


I thought it was a terrible term to use in this context.

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Mon, 04-07-2008 - 3:48pm

I hate the angle that this story is written from. It is written from a privileged, elitist point of view.

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Mon, 04-07-2008 - 3:57pm
It is a very defensive article I thought.

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Mon, 04-07-2008 - 4:05pm

My reaction is sort of mild amusement that this tiny section of society seem to genuinely believe that their lives are endlessly fascinating to others.

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Mon, 04-07-2008 - 4:07pm
ps - am I the only one who was about to fall off my chair with this thread title and this poster? lol
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Mon, 04-07-2008 - 4:17pm

My reaction is sort of mild amusement that this tiny section of society seem to genuinely believe that their lives are endlessly fascinating to others.

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Mon, 04-07-2008 - 4:49pm
I thought it was very elitist and written in a tone that I don't like. I called it "New Yorky", but it is really more like Manhatteny ala Sex in the City with kids kind of thing.
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Mon, 04-07-2008 - 5:17pm

I kind of lost interest when she started talking about families hiring multiple nannies . . .

To answer your question, I don't mind her saying that a family with two children is "minimalist," but find it downright offensive to say it's sad. And I plan to have more than two children.

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