Speaking of having 3 kids...

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Speaking of having 3 kids...
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Mon, 04-07-2008 - 3:21pm

Any comments on this editorial that ran yesterday?


http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2008/04/04/AR2008040403217.html


I really object to the line that says that a family with just two kids is minimalist and "even a little sad."


Any other comments?


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Registered: 04-04-2005
Mon, 04-07-2008 - 9:16pm

I will agree that kids are very expensive. The third child has strained our budget a bit. I will disagree we had her to show off our financial wealth. I had her because I wanted her. I love her and could not imagine life without her. If anything having the third child has put us in a lower financial status. My kids have to do with a bit less because there are 3 mouths to feed and bodies to dress. However, they really love eachother. My house is full of noise - sometimes it is fighting but there is lots of laughter. I am going to miss those noises when they move out.


I read the article. It may be true with some. I know there are some large families living in our affluent neighborhood. I think they all love their kids. Maybe they had them because they love kids and they can afford them too. I know I would have one more if I was a bit younger and we made a bit more.

 

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Mon, 04-07-2008 - 10:24pm

I was 42 when I had my second.

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Tue, 04-08-2008 - 5:20pm

Makes sense to me. "Honey, should I get a Hummer, a Prada bag, or knocked up with number three?"


The world the author lives in is very small and like the people on the dust speck from Horton Hears

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Tue, 04-08-2008 - 6:55pm

Oh, they know there's a bigger world around them.

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Wed, 04-09-2008 - 12:03am

"You've got a boy and a girl already. Why don't you just leave it alone?"


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Sun, 04-13-2008 - 10:13pm

I see nothing wrong with the author and her dh wanting more than 2 children. Their reasons are, after all, just their reasons and no one else's. We had 4 children--the first 3 within 6 years and the last one 13 years after #3. And none of them cost nearly what the studies claim. Are we the only ones who buy at thrift stores for infant basics? And I do mean basics. A baby needs a place to sleep (the family bed works fine; so does the second hand crib give by a friend or family member or bought used ), a place to store their diapers, clothes, and blankets (a cardboard box works great; so does the second hand portacrib that the baby refuses to sleep in), and food (breastfeeding is free and baby food is extremely easy to make). The only thing I ever bought brand new were car seats. A chest of drawers works great as a changing table (so does the bed, the floor, and the couch); cloth diapers are cheaper than disposables (especially if you can get grandma to make them :) ), swings, exersaucers, and high chairs can be bought used (or not bought at all). A back pack works just as well for a diaper bag as the most expensive designer one.

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Mon, 04-14-2008 - 12:24am

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Nope, you're not the only one! Almost everything that we have for our baby was either purchased second-hand or was a gift. We got the car seat new, we bought a Laugh & Learn Puppy new, and we buy disposable diapers/wipes wholesale. We live across the street from a large children's resale shop.

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Registered: 04-04-2005
Mon, 04-14-2008 - 9:27am

I think babies are inexpensive but once they start school the costs can rise. It all depends on the family and their values. Right now one of my twins has to see a Psychiatrist because she possibly may have ADD and if she does that is a lot of future visits to the Psychiatrist and my insurance may or may not cover it. I know my twins are most likely going to need braces because they have an overbite. I am financing all three of their college educations. Lets not even think about when they start

 

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Mon, 04-14-2008 - 9:59am

"All three kids have their college tuition pre paid so I will not have to worry about that when they graduate HS and dh and I can focus on retirement."

Providing they can get into a state school. Did you see all the articles last week about decent smart kids not getting into in state schools because of the stiff competition in our area? We have the prepaid plan as well, in case they go in state. We are fairly paranoid, so we are also saving for contingencies of out of state college and private colleges. It has served us well so far as with DS2's LD a smaller private university may be more accommodating (at the least the current list of "accommodating" type colleges is almost exclusively private).

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Mon, 04-14-2008 - 10:40am

There is always George Mason, Old Dominion, Radford, even VCU is not impossible. UVA, Virginia Tech, William and Mary and JMU are more difficult.


 

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