Speaking of pushing a child.......

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Speaking of pushing a child.......
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Fri, 09-07-2007 - 2:04pm

My fiancee and I are going to have some battles over the years, I can already see it coming.

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Fri, 09-07-2007 - 2:16pm

Hopefully your fiancee will get over it and realize he can't relive the glory days through your son.

My children each get to pick one activity. They aren't allowed to make hasty decisions to quit, especially if it is a team sport. When others are depending on them, I'd expect them to consider that and put others first in that regard and ride out a season. My 12 yo dd wanted to quit playing piano once. I encouraged her to wait a month then re-evaluate. she ended up being glad she did, because she decided not to quit.

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Fri, 09-07-2007 - 2:25pm

Hopefully your fiancee will get over it and realize he can't relive the glory days through your son.


That is exactly what I tell him.

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Fri, 09-07-2007 - 2:27pm

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Fri, 09-07-2007 - 2:30pm

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While I won't say we require them to do an extracurricular activity because we have the opposite problem, requiring them to pick only one or two, lol.....we do support their interests in whatever way we can.

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Fri, 09-07-2007 - 2:38pm

I think that is fair.

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Fri, 09-07-2007 - 2:38pm
I don't push my kids into activities at all, what is the point? If they like something they'll ask me if they can join and if I push them chances are good they won't really enjoy it. I don't believe in heavy loads for young kids, in general of course. We recently pulled my dd out of tae kwon do, something she asked to do, because it was very demanding and she is not ready for that. Activities for my dds, 7yo, for right now will mostly be limited to 4H and Sprouts (church youth group).
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Fri, 09-07-2007 - 2:41pm

i don't buy the nonsense,my kid is in competitive sports/activities because that's where his interests lie...i think *competition* is a learned behavior (from a parent,mostly). my kids aren't in competitive sports because well,i'm not competitive nor is dh. and they've never sought interest in that department,etiher. out of the three,ds will probably be the most involved in a team centered environment. but even then,i don't want him there with the attitude focused only on the competition,to win,etc (probably why he and his sisters are growing under the y philosophies,not other leagues).

cut your dh some slack though. your son's only 4 mos. my dh used to joke about the same things,like oh,ds is going to be a cleveland browns fan just like me. lol..i can't say he cares if ds sits in front of the television to watch football now and ds is four. but he will pitch a ball with him,ride bikes,things like that.

jmho.




Edited 9/7/2007 2:50 pm ET by egd3blessed

 

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Fri, 09-07-2007 - 2:54pm

I think my job as

PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 09-07-2007 - 2:58pm

<<i don't buy the nonsense,my kid is in competitive sports/activities because that's where his interests lie...i think *competition* is a learned behavior (from a parent,mostly).>>


It's not nonsense, it's actually truth.

PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 09-07-2007 - 3:25pm

I would never force a kid into a particular sport, but I do think kids need to be physically active, particularly since school PE is now down to something like twenty minutes a day when there's a full moon. Both my boys like being physically active, so that's not much of a problem. We have a foster daughter right now who is a bit of a couch potato and I am trying to find a physical activity/sport she likes.

I made the kids learn to swim when they were small, past Red Cross level four.
I made the kids take piano lessons until they could read music competently (finished level two book). Both have elected to continue but if either wanted to quit now, I'd be OK with it.

The kids have tried various activities through the years; some once, some for a number of years. I've never forced anything on them but I have urged them to be more well-rounded and to try things like art camp or drama camp in the summer, stuff like that.

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