Spinoff of 2170 Posts!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2005
Spinoff of 2170 Posts!!
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Fri, 06-22-2007 - 12:01pm

Ok, with all the wedding talk and what to give for gifts, I am NOW, after going to weddings for almost 20 years-lol! invited to an outdoor wedding in someone's home.
Here is the scenario:
Bride and Groom (she 22, he 36)
Living together for over 3 years
Groom-12 year old son
Bride and Groom-have a 3 year old and she is due with their 2nd in August
Wedding:
At her mother's house-catered food from restaurant

I know in other posts I said I would probably give the same as a sit down reception but we were orally invited to this wedding so I assume they are doing this just to get married before the 2nd child arrives. I have NO clue now what to do about a gift-lol!!

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 06-22-2007 - 12:35pm
I would inquire where they are registered at.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2005
Fri, 06-22-2007 - 12:42pm
We give cash gifts where I live so I would usually only check the registry if I was going to the shower and either she is not having one or I am not invited.
Thanks!
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-10-2007
Fri, 06-22-2007 - 12:49pm
I give gifts based on my relationship with the person, not on anything else regarding the marriage or wedding. I'd give exactly the same gift here as I would if they were having a $100K church/hotel banquet/formal shindig.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2005
Fri, 06-22-2007 - 12:50pm
Thanks!
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-22-2000
Fri, 06-22-2007 - 1:10pm
Me, too.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 06-22-2007 - 1:10pm
I know.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2005
Fri, 06-22-2007 - 1:15pm
I know I will be giving cash but I don't know if it should be less because it is a VERY informal wedding. I got no invitation, pretty much last minute thing, nothing fancy, they have kid(s) already. This is not your "normal" situation where the couple has been dating, get engaged, do the "wedding" thing. They are basically doing this to make their living together for many years legal before the child is born.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 06-22-2007 - 1:38pm
And if I was writing a check, the amount would have to do with how close to the couple. Not how much their wedding was costing them or why they were getting married.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2005
Fri, 06-22-2007 - 1:42pm
Thanks!
We might just have to give less than we normally would because it is only 3 weeks away so we weren't given much time to save. This must have been a last minute thing as my dh spoke to the groom last week and he said nothing about it.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-10-2007
Fri, 06-22-2007 - 2:01pm
Ditto.

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