Spinoff of 2170 Posts!!

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Spinoff of 2170 Posts!!
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Fri, 06-22-2007 - 12:01pm

Ok, with all the wedding talk and what to give for gifts, I am NOW, after going to weddings for almost 20 years-lol! invited to an outdoor wedding in someone's home.
Here is the scenario:
Bride and Groom (she 22, he 36)
Living together for over 3 years
Groom-12 year old son
Bride and Groom-have a 3 year old and she is due with their 2nd in August
Wedding:
At her mother's house-catered food from restaurant

I know in other posts I said I would probably give the same as a sit down reception but we were orally invited to this wedding so I assume they are doing this just to get married before the 2nd child arrives. I have NO clue now what to do about a gift-lol!!

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iVillage Member
Registered: 06-10-2007
Mon, 07-09-2007 - 3:41pm
Are your comments on this board?
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-27-2005
Mon, 07-09-2007 - 3:41pm
Well, we don't really have superbowl parties where I live, but we have been invited to World Cup Soccer match parties and we have usually brought something like wine or flowers as a gift (wine as a gift in the sense that we don't expect to be served with that wine at any point...it is meant for the hosts to keep and enjoy on their own or serve at the party if they so choose).
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-10-2007
Mon, 07-09-2007 - 3:42pm
You thought what? remember I don't know what you are thinking, only unless you post your thoughts here, lol.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2005
Mon, 07-09-2007 - 3:42pm
??? You feel like YOU are being picked on? By whom?
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-27-2005
Mon, 07-09-2007 - 3:43pm
I didn't buy a new dress for my wedding, I wore the dress I had bought for my college graduation 2 years before. Did I somehow break an etiquette rule I was unaware of?
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2005
Mon, 07-09-2007 - 3:43pm
I will bring food to a superbowl but no other gift. It is a casual affair that you basically just eat and drink all day.
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Registered: 11-22-2000
Mon, 07-09-2007 - 3:44pm
Our showers usually involve the bride's closest friends, and of course some family members. I know some people who have ahd more than one shower, for different groups of friends. Generally, there are about 15-20 guests...nowhere near the whole wedding guest list.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2005
Mon, 07-09-2007 - 3:45pm
Did you have a very casual wedding?
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-10-2007
Mon, 07-09-2007 - 3:45pm

Well, first of all, it wouldn't be envelopes. Secondly, we wouldn't be handing it to the couple, we'd be putting them on the gift table, or might have them delivered ahead of time. Or might have given things to them in person before the wedding.

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Sigh. As I explained before, in detail 100 posts ago, sometimes there is a gift that I want to give someone that has special, or deeper, or more significant meaning if it comes from *me*. It wouldn't have that same meaning if it also came from dh. Sometimes I'll think "Hey ABC wouuld be perforect for Ted and Barb." and dh will also pick something up because he saw it in the store and thought "Hey, this would so suit Barb and Tec." And we might give those as separate gifts, or we might combine and put both our names on both gifts, or package into one gift.

I have no hard-and-fast rules for gift giving. What I do varies according to each situation.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-10-2007
Mon, 07-09-2007 - 3:45pm
I didn't have my nails done before my first wedding. I didn't have my hair or nails done for my second.

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