Spinoff of 2170 Posts!!
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Spinoff of 2170 Posts!!
| Fri, 06-22-2007 - 12:01pm |
Ok, with all the wedding talk and what to give for gifts, I am NOW, after going to weddings for almost 20 years-lol! invited to an outdoor wedding in someone's home.
Here is the scenario:
Bride and Groom (she 22, he 36)
Living together for over 3 years
Groom-12 year old son
Bride and Groom-have a 3 year old and she is due with their 2nd in August
Wedding:
At her mother's house-catered food from restaurant
I know in other posts I said I would probably give the same as a sit down reception but we were orally invited to this wedding so I assume they are doing this just to get married before the 2nd child arrives. I have NO clue now what to do about a gift-lol!!

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Yes, it was. I've described in some detail in another thread:
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-pssahwoh/?msg=17817.1371
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that was my point. Thank you for supporting it. Matoeric stated "If someone is friends ~ or even somehow acquainted ~ with the bride, then the bridesmaids would've invited her to the shower". To which I replied that not ALL acquaintances are invited to all showers.
You just agreed with me. :)
While I don't know that it is considered "standard" where I live, but it's what I was taught to do as well. Even though it's a casual event, I was taught it was the proper thing to do for the person gracious enough to "host" these type of parties. We just went to a small, casual Fourth of July pool party at dh's boss' house with our kids. It was potluck, so we brought a dish, but we also brought a bottle of wine and a bouquet of flowers to the host/hostess. And apparently, I wasn't the only one who thought a hostess gift was appropriate b/c I happened to notice (probably b/c of this being discussed so much on this board LOL) that one of dh's coworkers brought a hostess gift as well - she brought something entertaining related - like coasters or something, I didn't really see exactly what was in the box.
And that actually reminds me, I still need to write a thank you note. I know, lots of people on this board wouldn't think to do something like that but dh and I were both taught that it was the appropriate thing to do when someone invites you to their home. I'm going to write my thank you note right now while I'm thinking of it! Dh actually told our kids yesterday that they needed to write (color) them as well - gotta get them trained early LOL.
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