Spinoff of 2170 Posts!!

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Spinoff of 2170 Posts!!
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Fri, 06-22-2007 - 12:01pm

Ok, with all the wedding talk and what to give for gifts, I am NOW, after going to weddings for almost 20 years-lol! invited to an outdoor wedding in someone's home.
Here is the scenario:
Bride and Groom (she 22, he 36)
Living together for over 3 years
Groom-12 year old son
Bride and Groom-have a 3 year old and she is due with their 2nd in August
Wedding:
At her mother's house-catered food from restaurant

I know in other posts I said I would probably give the same as a sit down reception but we were orally invited to this wedding so I assume they are doing this just to get married before the 2nd child arrives. I have NO clue now what to do about a gift-lol!!

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Mon, 07-09-2007 - 4:53pm
?? Why would you not have a shower before? Usually you do that so the couple will have things to start off their marriage in their new home.
If you are a woman that does not get invited to the shower, you are not obligated to send a gift. You will give a gift at the wedding though and if you were not invited to the shower, you were not family or close friends of the bride or groom.
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Registered: 12-29-2004
Mon, 07-09-2007 - 4:53pm
As far as I'm concerned, there's nothing more personal than taking the time to make something unique for someone, using your own time and materials, but of course YMMV.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Mon, 07-09-2007 - 4:54pm
Every wedding I have gone to in the last 20 years.
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Mon, 07-09-2007 - 4:55pm
I am surprised because if you are not that close to the bride or groom and just a date, why would you send a gift. Sometimes they wouldn't even know your name if you were just a date.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Mon, 07-09-2007 - 4:56pm
I do take the time and pick out a card for each and every couple thinking of them. I think it is a bit tacky to cover a name on a card to reuse.
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Mon, 07-09-2007 - 4:56pm
This has been answered often enough.
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Registered: 01-10-2007
Mon, 07-09-2007 - 5:01pm
Ehh, I'll buy one thank-you-very-much, lol.
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Mon, 07-09-2007 - 5:02pm
One of my showers was after. We got married very quickly and there just wasn't time to do it before. So we had the "family" shower about a month after the wedding.
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Registered: 01-10-2007
Mon, 07-09-2007 - 5:02pm
Weddings aren't "whos", they are "things". WHO are you speaking of?

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