Spinoff of 2170 Posts!!

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Spinoff of 2170 Posts!!
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Fri, 06-22-2007 - 12:01pm

Ok, with all the wedding talk and what to give for gifts, I am NOW, after going to weddings for almost 20 years-lol! invited to an outdoor wedding in someone's home.
Here is the scenario:
Bride and Groom (she 22, he 36)
Living together for over 3 years
Groom-12 year old son
Bride and Groom-have a 3 year old and she is due with their 2nd in August
Wedding:
At her mother's house-catered food from restaurant

I know in other posts I said I would probably give the same as a sit down reception but we were orally invited to this wedding so I assume they are doing this just to get married before the 2nd child arrives. I have NO clue now what to do about a gift-lol!!

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Mon, 07-09-2007 - 9:35pm
lololol!! 100 people! That is insane!
I have to tell you though that my bridal shower was really nice (only about 30 women). It was at a very nice restaurant, centerpeices on the table, sit down lunch (the best Chicken Francaise I have had-lol!).
I have had fun at showers at people's homes too though. I LOVE to try different foods so I am into having all kinds of appetizers. I will usually park myself in front of shrimp cocktail, spinach dip or potato chips and dip-lol!!!
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Mon, 07-09-2007 - 9:36pm

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Mon, 07-09-2007 - 9:37pm
That's sad that you felt left out. I know you did say though that your friends made it up to you so that was good.
I HATE attention on me and people staring at me but it is still nice to know that people care and come out to celebrate when you start your new life off with your husband.
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Mon, 07-09-2007 - 9:40pm

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Mon, 07-09-2007 - 9:42pm

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Ehh. Elaborate? Maybe. Sophisticated? Not so. Things can be inexpensive and simple and still be sophisticated.

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Where do you get that it bothers me?

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Mon, 07-09-2007 - 9:43pm
Nope.
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Mon, 07-09-2007 - 9:45pm
Depends on the type of shower. Mine and my sister's were both at nice restaurants with sit down lunches.
At home ones I have gone to is usually catered or food made by the family.
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Mon, 07-09-2007 - 9:46pm

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There is no THEY. I can't speak in general for large groups of people. I can say what I've done in the past, what others I know have done in the past, what some people around me do .. but I can't say 'what THEY do by them.' I just don't have that knowledge, authority, right or desire.

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So when you say "you take XXX gift to a shower", you really mean "WE take XXX gift to a shower" or "the people I know take XXX gift to a shower".

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Mon, 07-09-2007 - 9:47pm

Ehhh, I don't shop at VS. I can get a better product elsewhere for much less. I don't like to pay out the wazoo for extra bells and whistles .. but it for underwear or a wedding.

Edited to fix a typo that totally changed the meaning of the post.




Edited 7/9/2007 10:02 pm ET by son.of.adam
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Mon, 07-09-2007 - 9:48pm
I have explained how engagement parties, showers and weddings are done for the most part by me. I have been to these things and known people who have for many many years. It is not unfamiliar to me.
Maybe it is unfamiliar to you and that is why you can't explain how things are done by you. Even if I go to different types of weddings and showers, I have explained what the differences were. You have not.

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