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| Fri, 06-22-2007 - 12:01pm |
Ok, with all the wedding talk and what to give for gifts, I am NOW, after going to weddings for almost 20 years-lol! invited to an outdoor wedding in someone's home.
Here is the scenario:
Bride and Groom (she 22, he 36)
Living together for over 3 years
Groom-12 year old son
Bride and Groom-have a 3 year old and she is due with their 2nd in August
Wedding:
At her mother's house-catered food from restaurant
I know in other posts I said I would probably give the same as a sit down reception but we were orally invited to this wedding so I assume they are doing this just to get married before the 2nd child arrives. I have NO clue now what to do about a gift-lol!!

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Ehhh, that's bunk. My mom hosted one of mine. It was fairly informal affair with very close friends and family only. And not just ladies; it was a whole family affair (kids, husbands, etc).
You know, let me clarify: I think the one my mom hosted was more like a wedding reception than a shower ...
Edited 7/9/2007 9:49 pm ET by son.of.adam
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My first wedding was a cake/punch reception. My second was a dinner at a restaurant. I've gone to weddings with less than cake/punch. I've gone to weddings with a full-sit-down meal. I've gone to weddings with a buffet. I've gone to weddings with hors d'oeuvres. I've gone to weddings with a BBQ in the backyard. All of these in the same state. (OK)
Then, in another state ... I've gone to weddings with a full-sit-down meal. I've gone to weddings with a buffet. I've gone to weddings with hors d'oeuvres. I've gone to weddings with a BBQ in the backyard. (VA)
That's crap.
I haven't made a detailed, boring post about "we do this and that and this at weddings" and "we do this and that and that at bday parties."
But I have made statements like "in my circle we usually dont' give gifts at casual bday parties". And I've recounted, many times, the types of gifts I buy and how I decide to buy them and the type of weddings I"ve had and the types of parties I've hosted and been to.
Sure, I didn't say WE DO THIS ... because I can't speak for others. It isn't a code Oklahomans live by; there isn't some standard that we all adhere to.
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That's silly. As long as what I gave meant something to the couple, I don't give a damn what everyone else gave, or how my gift compared.
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Sigh. It isn't unfamiliarity. It isn't lack of experience. It is lack of similarity and consistency. There is no standard way. So I can't explain what is USUALLY done, because it varies so widely.
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