Spinoff of 2170 Posts!!

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Spinoff of 2170 Posts!!
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Fri, 06-22-2007 - 12:01pm

Ok, with all the wedding talk and what to give for gifts, I am NOW, after going to weddings for almost 20 years-lol! invited to an outdoor wedding in someone's home.
Here is the scenario:
Bride and Groom (she 22, he 36)
Living together for over 3 years
Groom-12 year old son
Bride and Groom-have a 3 year old and she is due with their 2nd in August
Wedding:
At her mother's house-catered food from restaurant

I know in other posts I said I would probably give the same as a sit down reception but we were orally invited to this wedding so I assume they are doing this just to get married before the 2nd child arrives. I have NO clue now what to do about a gift-lol!!

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Registered: 01-10-2007
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 9:04am

1) My nails weren't being presented, so no need for them to be presentable.

2) I keep my nails trimmed and fairly neat most of the time. Manicured? No. Clean and neat? Yes.

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 9:04am
Are you kidding? If I go to a shower, or most any kind of party, I certainly enjoy having something good to eat, be it a buffet or a sit-down meal. I just like it better when I don't have to pay for it at the party.
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Registered: 06-10-2007
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 9:05am

"No, because it was kind of a tongue-in-cheek joking comment. It was true, but it was made in a joking manner."

Ok, got it now.

"With my dh, it is never all about him."

That's great. Selfish men are a big no-no in my book.

Ummm, where did you get "because everything will come undone anyway"? Did you get that from "the big black box of fantasy statements that do nothing to support my argument?" (btw, hazel shops at that same store)

What is the reason for not looking your best on your wedding day?

"Well, almost 4 years now."

that's great, hope it goes on for many more.

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Registered: 01-10-2007
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 9:06am

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AMEN! I weighed 220+ pounds when I got married, and dh found me hot and lovable. If he couldn't take my (neat and clean) unmanicured nails, then what the heck was I doing taking him as a permanent part of my life?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 9:06am

the absence of a manicure does not automatically mean someones hands are not presentable -- and I also refuse to buy into the "you have to keep the guy having the hots for you" -- right...tell that to the guy years later whne he has a beer belly and a bald patch and he still expects you to be a Victoria's secret model.

That was the most refreshing thinga bout dating women when I finally came out -- there's none of that b/s -- and there's SO much more body acceptance in the lesbian community. when Kelly and I go out dancing I get up on this platform on the dance floor and shake and shimmy with the best of them and one night there was a woman dancing next to me who easily weighed close to 300 pounds and she was in her glory dancing and glowing and having a blast and she was gorgeous. I never saw that kind of acceptance in a straight club.

I also embraced my gray hair at 35 and stopped coloring it and i LOVE It -- it's short and spiky and gray and it sets me apart -- I don't wear makeup except when we have a show here and I have to be 'on' to greet the crowd-- the only thing i give into is pedicures b/c I lvoe to wear sandals and go without socks so my feet get pretty rough -- but I dont' do my nails, It takes me 3 seconds to do my hair and I love it that way. If the person you love needs you with a manicure and af ace full of make up all the time then... wow..that's too much effort!

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Registered: 06-10-2007
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 9:07am

"1) My nails weren't being presented, so no need for them to be presentable."

Did you perform the ring part of your ceremony at the wedding?

"2) I keep my nails trimmed and fairly neat most of the time. Manicured? No. Clean and neat? Yes."

You did give yourself a manicure then?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 9:07am

yeah...no. He was an emotionally abusive rage a holic -- I'm fairly sure my cuticles didn't send him over the edge....

then there was that whole me being gay thing... ;-)

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Registered: 01-10-2007
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 9:07am

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As I've stated ad nauseum, nails and hair weren't important to me. The relationship between dh and I (and my kids) and our MARRIAGE were what was important; not my appearance.

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 9:09am
According to time-honored tradition, it's not at all proper for family members to throw a shower. It's something done by the bridesmaids. They can certainly get financial help behind the scenes from the bride or groom's family if they need it, but originally it wasn't even something that was very expensive to do, since it was at someone's home and involved light refreshments, not a big-deal sit-down dinner at a restaurant or even at a home. It's still considered pretty tacky around here for a bride's family to throw a shower - it's like, "Our girl is getting married, and you better give her stuff!"
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Registered: 01-10-2007
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 9:09am

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He put a ring on my finger yes. But my hands weren't being "presented". He saw them. Virtually no one else did. Who the hell cares about my nails??

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Um, no. I already stated that I didn't.

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