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Fri, 06-22-2007 - 12:01pm

Ok, with all the wedding talk and what to give for gifts, I am NOW, after going to weddings for almost 20 years-lol! invited to an outdoor wedding in someone's home.
Here is the scenario:
Bride and Groom (she 22, he 36)
Living together for over 3 years
Groom-12 year old son
Bride and Groom-have a 3 year old and she is due with their 2nd in August
Wedding:
At her mother's house-catered food from restaurant

I know in other posts I said I would probably give the same as a sit down reception but we were orally invited to this wedding so I assume they are doing this just to get married before the 2nd child arrives. I have NO clue now what to do about a gift-lol!!

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Registered: 01-10-2007
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 9:35am

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AMEN! I think part of why I've been able to lose this weight is that I felt so secure in my relationship with dh. He loved me fat. He found me hot when I was fat. He met me, fell in love with me, and married me fat. So, I knew that if I lost weight I wouldn't be doing it for HIM, I'd be doing it for ME. And doing it for oneself is the only way it works (same goes for breaking drug and alcohol and other addictions).

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 9:36am
but you're very tall,though too right? wtg with distance cycling,btw. i last participated in the ms 150 too many years ago. dh and i are making plans to ride that together maybe next spring.

 

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 9:36am
I guess whoever organizes the party is free to do what they want, but as far as I'm concerned you'd have to talk to everybody about your "alternative" plans. Because if you don't, they're going to expect some sort of refreshments, and they're *not* going to expect to have to pay for them.
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Registered: 01-10-2007
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 9:37am
But that's what you don't get. He doesn't think I look BETTER with freshly manicured nails. In fact, he sometimes thinks I look better with no makeup and my hair all mussed. Sometimes he likes me all dolled up. But I guarantee the state of my hands isn't a factor in looking better or worse in his opinion.
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Registered: 01-10-2007
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 9:38am
We do it all the time. A group of people from work will say "Hey, let's take Carma to lunch for her bday.", and we go and each pay our way (and split for her meal, or one of us will pick it up.) Same happens for non-work birthdays and even for wedding/engagement celebrations.
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Tue, 07-10-2007 - 9:39am
that's an awesome ride! B/c my single mom status with liza makes it hard to train consistently my big ride of the summer is just a 50 mile event for a local cancer center. I have ridden teh Century route in the same event (100 miles, 8 hours WOO!) but I just don't have the time to train the way I need to train to ride a century -- I can do a 50 miler by doing 10-25 mile training rides and be fine. The ride is this Saturdya actually ! Last year i had 2 flat tires-- 2 years ago it poured for 38 of the 50 miles -- so hopefully this year will be free of incelment weather and technical malfunctions!

 

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 9:40am
i thought you said once you weren't very tall..my mother was petite,5'2 maybe. and 200lbs+ on her was too much....congrats on your big weight loss,though.

 

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Registered: 01-10-2007
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 9:42am
I'm 5'2". 200lbs was too much. I didn't indicate it wasn't. But it didn't (yet?) cause any health issues for me.
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Registered: 12-29-2004
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 9:43am
To me, that's different; not an "official" party with invitations and such. I can't imagine inviting guests a couple of weeks ahead of time to something they're expected to pay for themselves.
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Tue, 07-10-2007 - 9:43am
yeah that's what I was getting at -- it all comes down to how the invitation is communicated -- if no one the bride knew was financailly unable to host a shower then a group of friends could decide on a dutch treat lunch or dinner out somewhere -- but that definitely has to be communicated before hand. Or you can be like my friends did and just say "come for cake and coffee" on the invitation so people know they're not getting an actual meal! LOL

 

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