Spinoff of 2170 Posts!!

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Spinoff of 2170 Posts!!
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Fri, 06-22-2007 - 12:01pm

Ok, with all the wedding talk and what to give for gifts, I am NOW, after going to weddings for almost 20 years-lol! invited to an outdoor wedding in someone's home.
Here is the scenario:
Bride and Groom (she 22, he 36)
Living together for over 3 years
Groom-12 year old son
Bride and Groom-have a 3 year old and she is due with their 2nd in August
Wedding:
At her mother's house-catered food from restaurant

I know in other posts I said I would probably give the same as a sit down reception but we were orally invited to this wedding so I assume they are doing this just to get married before the 2nd child arrives. I have NO clue now what to do about a gift-lol!!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 10:49am
That's completely different than a shower or a birthday party planned in advance with stated hosts and invitations sent.

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Registered: 08-27-2005
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 10:49am
Each person's life is unique, I can only speak for myself and I simply can't pinpoint one day that stands out above all the other major milestones in my life. Some of those milestones have included: the day dh and I decided to be together forever (that was long before our wedding day), the days my children were born, the days dh found out he had cancer (he's had cancer twice), the days my grandmother and aunt died, the day I graduated from college, the day I turned in my master's thesis... My wedding day is somewhere in there, but it's definitely not at the top of the list.
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Registered: 01-10-2007
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 10:50am
We are more alike than you know. My alarm goes off at 5:30 M-F as well, so that I can be at the gym.
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Registered: 01-10-2007
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 10:50am
It is different. But it's still a party, imo.
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Tue, 07-10-2007 - 10:51am
I live in a fairly high traffic area although it's only a few miles ot some wonderful country roads so if I have a prayer of riding without tractor trailers bearing down on me I have to hit the road that early! Of course there was the day I didn't realize part of my training route was underconstruction and found myself in a long line of cars and trucks winding my way throuhg traffic cones and uneven pavement -- i nearly needed a valium after that one!

 

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Registered: 03-03-2007
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 10:53am

Okay, so no one in this thread has had the fun of a bridal shower at a hotel restaurant? It's as much fun as wearing white gloves and eating cucumber sandwiches, let me tell ya!

Therefore, I feel comfortable in using the generalized "you." Okay? No one take offense, please. So here goes:

When bridesmaids have the shower at a restaurant or a hotel restaurant, the guests don't pay for the meal. The bridesmaids do. (And if a lot of the MOB's friends and relatives attend too, then the MOB or even future MIL might cough up a few if the bridesmaids are lucky! As a bridesmaid, I was never that lucky.)

I know I'm being general and someone's going to say, but that's not the way we do it in Kansas. Whatever. But, because no one here has had the experience, and because it would be rude to ask the diners to pay for themselves, I just wanted to clear up that these things are always paid for by the bridesmaids, just like the traditional at-home shower.

I'm sure Hazeleyes will confirm this.

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Tue, 07-10-2007 - 11:00am

The man in my life teases me about my mani/pedi habit. He once said, "You know that we guys don't care about that, don't you?"

He was really amused when I told him the truth: I don't do it for him, I do it for the hand and foot massages!LOL


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Registered: 03-03-2007
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 11:00am

Not so fast, Quick Draw!

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Years ago (before I met my DH), I was holding hands with some boyfriend du jour and we *unknowingly* walked into a gay bar in NYC's Times Square area. The patrons were all male and they practically yelled at us to get the "hey" out of there. I was so afraid. Can you explain why that would be if the gay community is so accepting? I ask because I feel the same way your community does, and I try to reach out to gays and welcome them whenever the situation arises.

(Oh and I think the 300 lb woman is just fabulous and I'd be up there dancing with her too! I love dancing!)

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 11:00am
It's like she said - her hair takes 3 minutes!
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Registered: 03-03-2007
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 11:01am
Agree. Thanks, Mkat!

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