Spinoff of 2170 Posts!!

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Spinoff of 2170 Posts!!
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Fri, 06-22-2007 - 12:01pm

Ok, with all the wedding talk and what to give for gifts, I am NOW, after going to weddings for almost 20 years-lol! invited to an outdoor wedding in someone's home.
Here is the scenario:
Bride and Groom (she 22, he 36)
Living together for over 3 years
Groom-12 year old son
Bride and Groom-have a 3 year old and she is due with their 2nd in August
Wedding:
At her mother's house-catered food from restaurant

I know in other posts I said I would probably give the same as a sit down reception but we were orally invited to this wedding so I assume they are doing this just to get married before the 2nd child arrives. I have NO clue now what to do about a gift-lol!!

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 11:02am
I'll confirm it, too.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-29-2004
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 11:04am
You just haven't discovered online shopping! That's the only way for me!
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-27-2005
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 11:05am
That was my experience on the West Coast as well. Well, not my personal experience as I didn't have a shower, but that was how it worked for friends and family who did have showers at restaurants.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-29-2004
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 11:06am
Darn right! And whatever it cost you, it's cheap at the price, am I right?
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-29-2004
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 11:09am
It's a little like the recent Supreme Court decision - the meanings of "integration" and "separate but equal" all depend on who's on that bus.
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Registered: 11-22-2000
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 11:09am
Good thing you found one who wasn't rational, huh?

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Registered: 01-10-2007
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 11:11am
LOL! You betcha!
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 11:11am

what you describe is different from being accepted for your body type or lack of makeup -- first of al lthe boys ARE WAY more bitchy and catty about appearances that straight women could ever hope to be. eating disorders among young gay men are rampant actually -- the cult of the young and beautiful definitely lives among the boys.

However, what you described was probably a knee jerk response - when you have so few spaces that are just for you it's hard sometimes to hve them invaded by straight couples. The gay clubs in my home town are known to have the best djs but then the straight girls and boys come and they stare and gawk and point when i kiss my girlfriend -- and really if I wanted to be stared at I GO to a straight club. (once i kissed Kelly in a restaurant and the guy next to us literally choked on his water). The other thing may have bene that they wanted to let you know you were in a gay bar before you got uncomfortable. I"m not saying what they did was right and there are just as many gays and lesbians that are phobic about heterosexuals as vice versa. And that's just as wrong as homophobia in my book. I just got into a HUGE argument with a woman on one of my Gltb list serves for upcoming events. She complained that a poster put up a jazz festival that wasn't "strictly GLTB oriented" and I said "give me a break , don't you think life would be boring if we ONLY hung around with other gay people?" OOOH you shoudl have seen the fur fly over that one!

 

Yes. We. Did.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 11:12am
To some people, yes.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 11:13am

What we enjoyed most is being with our friends who traveled long distances and partying with them.

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