Spinoff of 2170 Posts!!

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Spinoff of 2170 Posts!!
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Fri, 06-22-2007 - 12:01pm

Ok, with all the wedding talk and what to give for gifts, I am NOW, after going to weddings for almost 20 years-lol! invited to an outdoor wedding in someone's home.
Here is the scenario:
Bride and Groom (she 22, he 36)
Living together for over 3 years
Groom-12 year old son
Bride and Groom-have a 3 year old and she is due with their 2nd in August
Wedding:
At her mother's house-catered food from restaurant

I know in other posts I said I would probably give the same as a sit down reception but we were orally invited to this wedding so I assume they are doing this just to get married before the 2nd child arrives. I have NO clue now what to do about a gift-lol!!

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-03-2007
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 1:26pm
Sigh. I used to be.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 1:27pm
Don't know why they ever would but I think the op is confusing a party with a get-together. When my gf's and I go out to happy hour, it is not a party (ok, maybe after a few drinks it is-lol!) but we all split the bill of our food and drinks. No one person is expected to pay for everyone like a party.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 1:27pm

<<Maybe you have not been reading posts than, I never said I did not go to a wedding without a gift.>>


Yes you have.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-10-2007
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 1:28pm
Exactly, you were part of a couple that was invited together, and he brought the gift since you didn't know the couple that well. If you had known the couple, you probably would've been resposible for the gift.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-10-2007
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 1:30pm
Says who? What is it with this etiquette mumbo jumbo?
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 1:31pm
He gave enough money for a gift from both of us, not just him. I would have NOT given him money for the gift as I was the guest and he was the one invited. When you give cash at a wedding, people don't give individual gifts. Each couple brings one card with cash or one check in it for the couple.
It is different by you because I guess a couple could bring 2 gifts, still wouldn't see why if you are going as a couple but that is just me, I guess.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 1:33pm
After we were engaged and had joint accounts, WE paid for the gift. Before then, HE did. Why is that soooo hard to understand-lolol!! I did not get 100 cards at my wedding because 100 people came. If I go back and count it was probably closer to 50 (ONE PER COUPLE!!)
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 1:33pm

<<What history?>>


This history of making false claims.


<<And you did say in a post that you wrote a post with two of those items in it. >>


Just like you claimed I didn't say I met them a handful of times in my original post to you on this matter, which of course, clearly wasn't true.


PumpkinAngel

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 1:35pm

<<If you had known the couple, you probably would've been resposible for the gift. >>


Responsibility, along with burden and anything else that states an obligation that as been mentionied,

PumpkinAngel

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 1:36pm

<<I would have NOT given him money for the gift as I was the guest and he was the one invited>>


Exactly, you went to a wedding and didn't bring a gift.


PumpkinAngel

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