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| Fri, 06-22-2007 - 12:01pm |
Ok, with all the wedding talk and what to give for gifts, I am NOW, after going to weddings for almost 20 years-lol! invited to an outdoor wedding in someone's home.
Here is the scenario:
Bride and Groom (she 22, he 36)
Living together for over 3 years
Groom-12 year old son
Bride and Groom-have a 3 year old and she is due with their 2nd in August
Wedding:
At her mother's house-catered food from restaurant
I know in other posts I said I would probably give the same as a sit down reception but we were orally invited to this wedding so I assume they are doing this just to get married before the 2nd child arrives. I have NO clue now what to do about a gift-lol!!

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My parents don't attend every religious event, I would say perhaps a handful and I know they don't understand my desire to raise my children in a religion.
PumpkinAngel
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
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that would probably be hurtful. But then, I've not been talking in that context.
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Of course it would. But that's not the point I've been debating. I've never said something like that wouldn't or shouldn't hurt.
I'll start with Mitt Romney.
Oh rats! Everything I dislike about him has nothing to do with his religion.
Oh nothing quite that grand of a statement, just didn't interest them.
PumpkinAngel
Thats the context *I* was discussing though. Choosing to boycott a wedding, christening, etc. BECAUSE they disagree with their childs decision regarding religion (or anything else).
Some people do view a christening as of the same level of importance as a wedding-so it would be hurtful to them if their parents did not attend. You've already said you dont see it that way, of course, but to say that they need to rise above their need to have their parents there minimizes what might be very important to some people.
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
Sure and in that situation, I can see why it wouldnt really bother you. If you had said to them *This is a really important event to us and it would mean the world to me if you could be there*, do you think they would have attended? Just as a show of support for you?
My stepmother boycotted my second wedding, out of sheer disapproval. I had luckily reached a point in my life where I knew that *nothing* I did would be good enough for her, so her not being there didnt really hurt. But I was fully aware that it was her disapproval and refusal to *condone my life* that kept her away.
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
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I think both are very important and
PumpkinAngel
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