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Fri, 06-22-2007 - 12:01pm

Ok, with all the wedding talk and what to give for gifts, I am NOW, after going to weddings for almost 20 years-lol! invited to an outdoor wedding in someone's home.
Here is the scenario:
Bride and Groom (she 22, he 36)
Living together for over 3 years
Groom-12 year old son
Bride and Groom-have a 3 year old and she is due with their 2nd in August
Wedding:
At her mother's house-catered food from restaurant

I know in other posts I said I would probably give the same as a sit down reception but we were orally invited to this wedding so I assume they are doing this just to get married before the 2nd child arrives. I have NO clue now what to do about a gift-lol!!

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Thu, 07-05-2007 - 7:33pm
I know. I got married at 21 and my gf's were still in college then. I am in contact with all my old friends by e-mail because alot of them moved out of state. It is very sad. When we do get together, we barely have anything to talk about.
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Thu, 07-05-2007 - 7:35pm
Now that is a steal-lol!! I will just say that mine was over $1,000 and I STILL LOVE it-lol! My gf said that she doesn't think it is right when someone gets a dress that is "in" for the year they are getting married. I will NEVER regret getting my dress as I loved it then and still 14 years later.
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Thu, 07-05-2007 - 7:41pm

well you have to understand that I have a pretty unique divorce -- ex h and I used a mediator and had only 2 sessions to hammer out our very agreeable situation. We are back and forth in and out of each others houses all the time -- he and his fiance were at my 40th birthday party, we've all gone to the movies together with Liza, we'all sit together at dance recitals (and by all I mean kelly and exh's fiance and his paretns and her parents!) we threw a joint first communion party for Liza with all the various families etc... so we're still very much a part of each others lives.

so she likes our wedding photos -- she was 5 when we divorced so it was a different scenario for her. We each tell her stories about the other one (funny stories from college etc...) so she knows we are still friends and still a family even though we don't live together any more. She will be the maid of honor when her dad gets marrie din March and she keeps asking if I'll go too -- I think I'll draw the line at that one -- I said that that was her dad's special day and his fiance's special day and I'd help her get ready and enjoy hearing her tell me all about it afterwards!

 

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Thu, 07-05-2007 - 7:44pm

That's really cool. I'm always curious about how kids react to changing situations in their lives.

LOL - I can definitely see drawing the line at attending the wedding! I've known people who attended their ex's weddings and always wondered how in the world they did it.


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Thu, 07-05-2007 - 7:46pm
well honestl it wouldn't bother ME -- but I'm very respectful of the fact that this is his fiance's first (and we hope only!) wedding and it should be her day -- as nice and welcoming as she and her family are to me and Kelly, I don't think they need us there that day!

 

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Thu, 07-05-2007 - 8:03pm

I'll go you one better. HER two sons (who are my step-daughter's half brothers and my dh's ex-stepsons -- AND the sons of the dj) were there too:)

Yeah, it takes a while getting used to. Basically, my dh's first wife's first exh was the dj at our wedding. I married her 2nd ex dh. LUCKY, LUCKY ME!!!!!

Carole

Edited 7/5/2007 8:29 pm ET by i_am_fine_now




Edited 7/5/2007 8:35 pm ET by i_am_fine_now
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Thu, 07-05-2007 - 8:12pm

we're a bit similar to you guys, but not quite as far along (don't know if we'll ever be that far along, LOL!). We attend the kids' events and sit in the same general vicinity. In fact, at the last concert I almost ended up between my ex and current dh! My MIL (ex, technically) offered to sit next to me so I wouldn't be in that position (as I really, really did NOT want to sit next to her son).

We're cordial. He's in my house 2x per week to put our special needs dd to bed. He wasn't invited to our wedding and I don't expected to be invited to his (if he ever gets remarried). At my wedding, my ds gave me away. All three girls were jr. bridesmaids.

but throw joint parties??? no thanks. Only for MAJOR events -- bar/bat-mitzvah, graduations.

Carole

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Thu, 07-05-2007 - 8:14pm
lolololol!!!
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Thu, 07-05-2007 - 9:44pm
it's just the old fashioned in me i guess. i'm thinking of that wedding song,"and a man shall leave his mother adn a woman leave her home.." lol.....besides,ivory is just as pretty for a gown color you know ;)

 

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Thu, 07-05-2007 - 9:50pm
hmmm....what if that woman is leaving her home...to marry another woman? ;-)

 

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