Spinoff of 2170 Posts!!

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Spinoff of 2170 Posts!!
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Fri, 06-22-2007 - 12:01pm

Ok, with all the wedding talk and what to give for gifts, I am NOW, after going to weddings for almost 20 years-lol! invited to an outdoor wedding in someone's home.
Here is the scenario:
Bride and Groom (she 22, he 36)
Living together for over 3 years
Groom-12 year old son
Bride and Groom-have a 3 year old and she is due with their 2nd in August
Wedding:
At her mother's house-catered food from restaurant

I know in other posts I said I would probably give the same as a sit down reception but we were orally invited to this wedding so I assume they are doing this just to get married before the 2nd child arrives. I have NO clue now what to do about a gift-lol!!

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Fri, 07-06-2007 - 9:46am

"Better" is subjective.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Fri, 07-06-2007 - 9:47am

<<that ranks right up there with a bride wearing white at the wedding to the man she lived with first,too. just wrong,imo. >>


Oh please.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Fri, 07-06-2007 - 9:53am

Okay...but I am not seeing much of a difference between simple and modest in this context.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 07-06-2007 - 9:54am
Or it could mean that the company knows the couple was living together but has no idea that the color of the dress "ought" to correlate with that. Give it enough time and future generations (or perhaps today's children) will have no idea what the meaning behind "white wedding dress" ever was.
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Registered: 09-04-1997
Fri, 07-06-2007 - 10:01am
I am not out to convince "anyone," anyone who would doubt that would be the kind of person that I would not wish to even know.
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Registered: 09-04-1997
Fri, 07-06-2007 - 10:04am
Odd that the exact same results --- a great day, a good marriage, and good memories, should vary so much in cost.
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Registered: 09-04-1997
Fri, 07-06-2007 - 10:05am
How about if she screwed him but didn't move in? Do you have to be a virgin to wear white, or is it the act of spending the night what negates the possibility of wearing white in your opinion?
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Registered: 09-04-1997
Fri, 07-06-2007 - 10:11am
I wouldn't expect to change their minds if they decided to accept another faith or began professing atheism as adults. I don't even expect to change their minds once they get past confirmation age -- about fourteen. But don't expect me not to have an opinion about their choices. If I had decided to adopt a faith other than that of my parents (and I kind of did, long story), I would not expect my mother to show up at or participate in religious services or rituals of my new faith -- I would have enough respect for HER religion not to ask her to disregard any of its tenets.
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Registered: 09-04-1997
Fri, 07-06-2007 - 10:14am

Let me know about that Baptist Christening, OK? That would be one for the books.....almost like the Presbyterian services for the Immaculate Conception that Felicia attends.

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Registered: 09-04-1997
Fri, 07-06-2007 - 10:19am
I understand that people's faith in many cases is THE MOST MEANINGFUL definer of who they are and where they fit in the world. Even above family. There were people in the world whose families put them to death, or turned them over to the authorities to be put to death, because that person converted away from a traditional family religion. That's how strong faith can be. If, for instance, I had a MIL who was a Jehovah's Witness, I would not expect her to attend my child's birthday parties. It would violate her faith tradition. I could choose to get my nose all out of joint every year, or I could choose to enjoy my relationship with that MIL in other ways, at other times. I certainly would not expect her to attend and be happy about DH and I baptizing our children into a Protestant tradition.

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