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Fri, 06-22-2007 - 12:01pm

Ok, with all the wedding talk and what to give for gifts, I am NOW, after going to weddings for almost 20 years-lol! invited to an outdoor wedding in someone's home.
Here is the scenario:
Bride and Groom (she 22, he 36)
Living together for over 3 years
Groom-12 year old son
Bride and Groom-have a 3 year old and she is due with their 2nd in August
Wedding:
At her mother's house-catered food from restaurant

I know in other posts I said I would probably give the same as a sit down reception but we were orally invited to this wedding so I assume they are doing this just to get married before the 2nd child arrives. I have NO clue now what to do about a gift-lol!!

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Fri, 07-06-2007 - 1:23pm

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and why is it about saving money? I don't think any of us have indicated that we'd have a less expensive wedding in order to save money.

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Of course. I'm simply not one of them.

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Registered: 01-10-2007
Fri, 07-06-2007 - 1:25pm

<,I think sometimes people don't know how much MORE there is to experience out there in life because they want to save all their money >>

and i sometimes think people don't know that you can often get MORE without spending more.

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Fri, 07-06-2007 - 1:31pm
I keep thinking of my friend who went all out for the Cinderella wedding and ended up divorced after a year. And then there are those commercials for the wedding shows on Style and such. Those women are NOT enjoying the planning of their wedding. Reasons for having an expensive wedding are out of my experiences so I'll just say that for dh and myself it would have been a waste. There is no one in either of our family/friend circles who would be impressed by such an event and I'd still be wincing at the cost, especially knowing one can have a beautiful wedding for alot less.
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Fri, 07-06-2007 - 1:34pm
I don't think the more expensive it is the more important it is but there are just certain things in life that I think you spend more on. A wedding to me is one of them.
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Fri, 07-06-2007 - 1:35pm

'I have never wanted to be Cinderella"

WORD to that. In fact one of Liza's favorite books is one I gave her as a toddler called "cinder Edna" which is about the plain practical gal in a similar situation who lives next door to Cinderalla. While Cindy mopes in the ashes, Edna gets a thriving side business mowing lawns. When the ball comes she has money saved up for a nice dress and a pair of shoes. While the fairy godmother is frustrated the cindy can't even figure out how to get to the ball Edna takes the bus -- and at the ball she chows down and meets the princes funny quirky brother-- Cinderella on the other hand can only sway slightly to the music b/c her glass slippers are so uncomfortable and she doesn't dare eat anything b/c her dress is so tight -- long story short there's a mix up and both princes are searching for their true love -- the princes brother however, rememember to ask Cinderedna's name so he tracked her down in no time without going through the stupid shoe routine. After the weddings cindy is bored with her handsome but vapid prince while Edna and her prince live in a little cottage and raise cats and have an organic garden and tell each other jokes and sing songs....

I love thisbook....

 

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Fri, 07-06-2007 - 1:36pm
I still wouldn't do it. I'd rather have a simple, inexpensive wedding and use the rest for an awesome honeymoon or put it towards a mortgage. I didn't say others shouldn't spend excessive amounts of money on a wedding but that I would find myself re-examining my priorities if I were considering such an event. Its been my experience that those I've heard (and seen on TV) having large, expensive weddings would have been better put to "invest" in pre-marital counseling instead. I absolutely cannot imagine starting a marriage off after stressing for months over things like table decorations and napkins. Seriously, if others like that sort of thing, more power to them. The whole idea makes me cringe.
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Fri, 07-06-2007 - 1:38pm

What?

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Fri, 07-06-2007 - 1:39pm
I feel that you need to enjoy life while you are saving. There are alot of people who never venture out of their town or spend the extra money for something because they think they need to save it all.
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Fri, 07-06-2007 - 1:41pm

"I absolutely cannot imagine starting a marriage off after stressing for months over things like table decorations and napkins. Seriously, if others like that sort of thing, more power to them. The whole idea makes me cringe."

there is a wedding tonight in the theater I work at -- and last night the bride and groom had a screaming match over (are you ready?) the SIGN that tells people what table they sit at. The bride had done it in "table" order and our wedding planning pointed out that alphabetical order makes it easier for the guests to find their own name - the bride started screaming that "she saw it done this way on theknot . com and that was how it would be" and the groom started yelling 'I'm not having my friends waste their cocktail hour trying to find their name on your damn sign"

lovely . and So dreadfully dreadfully important in the grand scheme of things .... LOL

 

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Fri, 07-06-2007 - 1:41pm

"I think sometimes people don't know how much MORE there is to experience out there in life because they want to save all their money (not saying this is you but there are plenty of them out there)."

1)That has nothing to do with this discussion. Unless you are under the impression that a reception that costs less is also less of a meaningful experience. Which is a wrong impression.

2)It is not necessary to spend money in order to experience MORE out there in life. Life altering experiences often cost nothing.

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