Spinoff of 2170 Posts!!

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Spinoff of 2170 Posts!!
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Fri, 06-22-2007 - 12:01pm

Ok, with all the wedding talk and what to give for gifts, I am NOW, after going to weddings for almost 20 years-lol! invited to an outdoor wedding in someone's home.
Here is the scenario:
Bride and Groom (she 22, he 36)
Living together for over 3 years
Groom-12 year old son
Bride and Groom-have a 3 year old and she is due with their 2nd in August
Wedding:
At her mother's house-catered food from restaurant

I know in other posts I said I would probably give the same as a sit down reception but we were orally invited to this wedding so I assume they are doing this just to get married before the 2nd child arrives. I have NO clue now what to do about a gift-lol!!

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Fri, 07-06-2007 - 2:23pm

I am just not following that line of logic.....


PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 07-06-2007 - 2:25pm
Right now we don't have the disposible income to travel where we would like. Yes, I live near the biggest city in the world but let me tell you, I have personally have never been to the statue of liberty! My parents brought us all over but we never travelled into the city as my dad grew up there and did not want to go back (it was bad when I was a kid). Now my dh will occasionally go in but that is not a vacation for me.
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Fri, 07-06-2007 - 2:26pm

Care to address my questions in that post?


AGAIN, what is that you are doing with your money that makes your life so much richer than the people that you are putting down?


<<I don't think it is very impressive when someone says they have this much or that much money in the bank and did nothing with their life. >>


Again, Who has said this?

PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 07-06-2007 - 2:27pm
I was speaking about other members in the family for bday gifts. My children always get more than $50 for a gift. I couldn't see giving my nephew a bday gift for $50 and then giving the same for a wedding. To me that is a once in a lifetime thing and the gift should be larger.
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Fri, 07-06-2007 - 2:27pm

Because no matter who they are, the wedding couple will never mean more to me than my children. I will always spend more on my kids' birthdays than on a friend's wedding.

I tend to give gifts with meaning behind them that can't be measured by $$$. My very best friend in college received a gift from me that was only about a $15 gift. She told me later it was one of her most treasured wedding gifts because it had deep sentimental meaning for her and I.

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Fri, 07-06-2007 - 2:28pm

Then this post is a bit confusing.

PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 07-06-2007 - 2:29pm
I wouldn't give a nephew a $50 birthday gift. For non-immediate-family, a wedding gift is usually larger than a birthday gift. In fact, I haven't given a birthday gift to a non-immediate family member in YEARS.
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Fri, 07-06-2007 - 2:32pm
Never said that the price means more but there has to be some kind of standard of how much you give for certain things. I give less for a gf's shower than to my sister's. I give less to a gf's wedding than my sister's.
Don't you have an amount you normally spend on things or is it just what you feel like that day?
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Fri, 07-06-2007 - 2:32pm

"Why would you even go to a wedding that the couple did not mean more than the amount people will spend on a birthday gift?"

I am still just amazed at this line of logic that there are price tags on how much you do or dont' value poeple in your lives. Let's see -- my nearest closest best friend in the world and I do not give eah other birthday gifts nor have we ever exchange a Christmas gift in 24 years. Never have. Yet He means more to me than 99% of the people on this planet -- I don't exchange birthday presents with my own brother and yet he is so close and so dear to me I can't begin to describe it. this last fall I was happy to chip in $50 towards a group gift for my co worker so we could get her and her fiance a weekend away at a lovely resort. i gave what I could, some gave more, some gave less. Her wedding was glorious and a great deal of fun for all (cash bar too..just had to throw that in there...AND she's as Italian as you can get - married another italian too...cash bar. go figure). But, while I adore her, I"m not as close to her as I am to others in my life. I can't imagine sitting down and figuring out "what I would spend" on each of them for birthdays, christmas or weddings -- they are worth so much more to me than that.

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Fri, 07-06-2007 - 2:33pm

"I love to travel and wish we could do more but it is expensive, especially with 2 kids. We do have many places in mind when the kids get older and move out-lol!!"

So you don't plan on traveling with your children? That is so differnt from where I live. I think my children are about the only ones of their friends who have not traveled overseas. But we have been able to take them to many places around the sates so far.

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