Spinoff of 2170 Posts!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2005
Spinoff of 2170 Posts!!
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Fri, 06-22-2007 - 12:01pm

Ok, with all the wedding talk and what to give for gifts, I am NOW, after going to weddings for almost 20 years-lol! invited to an outdoor wedding in someone's home.
Here is the scenario:
Bride and Groom (she 22, he 36)
Living together for over 3 years
Groom-12 year old son
Bride and Groom-have a 3 year old and she is due with their 2nd in August
Wedding:
At her mother's house-catered food from restaurant

I know in other posts I said I would probably give the same as a sit down reception but we were orally invited to this wedding so I assume they are doing this just to get married before the 2nd child arrives. I have NO clue now what to do about a gift-lol!!

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iVillage Member
Registered: 01-10-2007
Fri, 07-06-2007 - 2:47pm

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Yeah. Only there wasn't anyting related to the wedding itself that meant enough to me to shell out much.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2005
Fri, 07-06-2007 - 2:49pm
We have traveled with my oldest. That was in 2002. We did go away last year but we won that trip.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 07-06-2007 - 2:51pm

"There is NOBODY who has made one single post that said or even implied that their reception would have been more enjoyable had they spent more money."


True.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998
Fri, 07-06-2007 - 2:53pm

So....that's a no, you aren't going to support the claims you made?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Fri, 07-06-2007 - 2:55pm

Shocker here....I have two children and I don't

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 07-06-2007 - 2:55pm
Of course, and I agree.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 06-10-2007
Fri, 07-06-2007 - 2:55pm
He didn't offer to give the gift? You were his date and had to bring a gift?
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998
Fri, 07-06-2007 - 2:56pm

I agree 100%


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 10-17-2003
Fri, 07-06-2007 - 2:56pm

I already had a mortgage and enough for an awesome honeymoon, plus a fairly expensive wedding.>>

Good for you, but I thought you were asking what I would do. Sorry. Anyway, more power to you. I just find it...odd that you would spend so much money one things like weddings and birthday parties given the things I've read regarding your views on money. To each their own. I can still thing of about a thousand things I'd rather do than spend so much on one day.

There's a happy medium between cake and punch after the ceremony and the $100,000 extravaganza.>>

Absolutely. We had more food than we knew what to do with and at most we spent about $200 if I recall. Several relatives brought covered dishes because that is the tradition in dh's family and that was on top of the food we provided. We did not provide alcohol but more because of the large number of alcoholics in dh's family.

had no monogrammed anything; a good friend who's a professional photographer gave us 50% off her going rate as our wedding present. I made my own veil. >>

Cool. I bought the veil but only after I found the dress on clearance. The veil was also on sale, though. The shoes were a mistake, though.

We cut corners on things that didn't matter to us, but spent it freely on things that did. Isn't that what most engaged couples do (if they can afford it)?>>

I would think so but how can one possibly cut corners and still spend $30,000+ on a wedding? My car cost half of that and its lasted longer than the wedding (not the marriage, thank heavens, lol). Dh and I both have enormous families and we could never spend that much, even if we wanted to.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-17-2003
Fri, 07-06-2007 - 2:57pm
Oh dear. Can you imagine how they'll handle the really big things in life?

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