Spinoff of 2170 Posts!!

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Spinoff of 2170 Posts!!
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Fri, 06-22-2007 - 12:01pm

Ok, with all the wedding talk and what to give for gifts, I am NOW, after going to weddings for almost 20 years-lol! invited to an outdoor wedding in someone's home.
Here is the scenario:
Bride and Groom (she 22, he 36)
Living together for over 3 years
Groom-12 year old son
Bride and Groom-have a 3 year old and she is due with their 2nd in August
Wedding:
At her mother's house-catered food from restaurant

I know in other posts I said I would probably give the same as a sit down reception but we were orally invited to this wedding so I assume they are doing this just to get married before the 2nd child arrives. I have NO clue now what to do about a gift-lol!!

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iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2005
Fri, 07-06-2007 - 3:30pm
True. If I could afford to do a big trip every year, I would but right now with daycare and camp, I can't do it.
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Registered: 01-10-2007
Fri, 07-06-2007 - 3:30pm

Gee thanks so much for supporting my original point in this thread.

About simple, inexpensive weddings:

I'm sure the end result is the same: family togetherness, having fun, a strong bond between bride and groom, joyous memories. Look at that, without spending bundles on dresses or cake or alcohol or decorations or catering halls.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Fri, 07-06-2007 - 3:30pm

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PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-10-2007
Fri, 07-06-2007 - 3:31pm

"Nope, never stated anything close to this. But of course, travel wasn't my point, that was hazel who brought it up originally."

You questioned her about it. Don't think it matters who brought up the point. You responded to it.

"Ah, yea...why not? I enjoy the city (and the experiences of that city) that I live in. But no, that wasn't really the point just a comment on hazel's comments about the city that she lives in."

You weren't questioning her as to where she travels to? As if she needs to go and spend a bundle of money to get the same end result that you do with yoru family?

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Registered: 10-17-2003
Fri, 07-06-2007 - 3:32pm
Sorry, not buying it. Cutting out the monogrammed napkins is not what I consider scaling back. If that is your biggest concern than how much of an object is money to you really? It has nothing to do with where you live or the COL. It has to do with what one considers to be excessive. Spending more on one day in my life, when I could be using that money to create many wonderful days, seems excessive to me.
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Registered: 06-10-2007
Fri, 07-06-2007 - 3:33pm
You don't recall? You sound very political, lol.
I think it is tacky to bring a date and never discuss what they will give as a gift.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998
Fri, 07-06-2007 - 3:33pm

Confused here....it was your comments that drew my questions.


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PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Fri, 07-06-2007 - 3:35pm

Yet, it wasn't me who brought up the point to begin with, let alone found anything wrong with not venturing out of one's own town.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-10-2007
Fri, 07-06-2007 - 3:35pm

"Gee thanks so much for supporting my original point in this thread.

About simple, inexpensive weddings:"

That's exactly what I'm doing. Doesn't matter if the bride spends tens of thousands or hundreds, the bride expects to get the same feeling at the end of the day. Just as a family of 4 who spends thousands on vacations and another family of 4 who spends a few dollars would expect to get the same feeling at the end of the day. So, why is it different for vacationers to spend so much money but not a bride?

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Fri, 07-06-2007 - 3:35pm
If you are not used to going to weddings like in other places, then you do not understand how expensive things can be.

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