Spinoff thread. Gifts how much is too

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Spinoff thread. Gifts how much is too
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Tue, 06-26-2007 - 11:47am

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Sun, 07-01-2007 - 2:22pm
That sounds exactly right for an LI wedding.

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Sun, 07-01-2007 - 2:22pm
If I were to report I wouldn't ask your permission.

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Sun, 07-01-2007 - 2:25pm
b/c up here it would never occur to someone to NOT bring cash to a wedding reception. we don't have open bars. it's considered ostentatious, a waste of money and showy. Other than yuppies who moved here and want to show off no one does it. this is new england..

 

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Sun, 07-01-2007 - 2:27pm
I didn't say you were asking my permission. I just don't like to be threatened.
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Sun, 07-01-2007 - 3:25pm
No threat.

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Sun, 07-01-2007 - 3:34pm
Well of course a gracious hostess will never display an iota of annoyance when a guest brings food after being expressly told not to. But as someone who really takes a lot of time to plan a party or dinner menu, I would find it rather irritating. Do you really think someone would tell you that your brownies arent appreciated?

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Sun, 07-01-2007 - 3:43pm

Even my casual dinners are planned out. For example, we are having a family dinner next friday night.I am making chicken mole, rice, tortillas and assorted garnishments and salads, along with a tres leche cake for dessert. I dont want people bringing food that takes away from that menu. I am also planning a large barbecue/party later in the month-I am already hard at work planning that menu, which so far includes slow roasted ribs with a homemade cherry barbecue sauce, spiced roast corn, 3 different salads, 3 different apps and 2 different desserts. Everything I choose for the menu will complement the other items, and I really prefer guests not mess it up by bringing something after being asked not to.

I realize that not everyone takes food as seriously as I do, lol-just trying to show why a hostess might tell guests not to bring anything. It isnt always about the hostess not wanting to impose on the guest. That is why I think its important to honor their request-if you really hate showing up empty handed, a bottle of wine or small bouquet of flowers is always nice.

dj

Dj

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Sun, 07-01-2007 - 3:44pm
Eating it is certainly part of being a gracious hostess as well.

Dj

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Sun, 07-01-2007 - 4:40pm

"No threat. I didn't report the dumb post as I said."

So, now who might be breaking TOS?

"You responded to 2 of my posts saying that hostesses who couldn't handle it must be controlling. I just do not agree with your conclusions."

So? I am not permitted to make a judgement? Nothing was said about your personally. You have a right to not agree but don't make up things and say that I am breaking TOS.

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