Stay at home NCP SM?

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Registered: 01-31-2008
Stay at home NCP SM?
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Wed, 07-29-2009 - 2:22pm

Hello, I wanted to get some thoughts or ideas from women that stay at home or chose not to because its very likely that I will either work part time or become a full time housewife.


Heres the thing, I have worked my whole life. I have always worked full time and often over time, and some times even more then one job. I got married at 16, divorced by 17 and was living fully on my own and supporting myself as I do not have any family to help me. Many years have passed and I have done pretty well for my self. So work has always been a big part of my life.


Now, I am with, and have been with for some time, a wonderful man who wants to take care of me. He is also capable of doing so pretty well. He has 2 boys that live with their mom, but we often have them for a week here and there, weekends and even a solid month in the summers. We often go do things like going out of state to visit (his)family, vacations etc.


I still pretty much work full time as a store manager and I love my job for the most part. However since I take a considerable amount of time off I feel its not so fair to my employer. Though they have said nothing

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-31-2008
Thu, 07-30-2009 - 11:38am

Has anyone used those words in this debate?


A) I completely didnt realize this is a debate, though its clearly stated. I litterly did not realize that. I posted on the wrong board. Know where a discussion board or support board for this topic is on ivillage?


B) I have been doing some research and theres really a lot of ppl that dont think its even right to be a homemaker, and usually the ones that do are either much older or ones that have a nice steady income. I was refering to that.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-06-2009
Thu, 07-30-2009 - 11:48am

you have no legal rights as "boy friend and girl friend" trust me.

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Registered: 07-08-2009
Thu, 07-30-2009 - 12:32pm

I would slowly go in the pt direction. I'm similar to you in some ways. I worked from 16 years old, full time from 19 to 29 yrs old. I had twins at 29 and just due to the extra work of that cut down to part time work-25 hours a week, with the intent to go to full time when they were older. I found that I liked being at home better. As they got older and I could see working fulltime again, when they were about 3, I was so involved in being a "homemaker" and all that involved that I jus didn't want to do full time, I was so much happier. Then again last year when the economy plunged, my hours were cut down involuntarily to 12 a week, and for months I was unable to get other work.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 07-30-2009 - 1:07pm

Little more than babysitting?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 07-30-2009 - 1:09pm

What support topic are you looking for?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 07-30-2009 - 1:11pm

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Maybe they don't get it because for them it's not an either/or type of situation?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 07-08-2009
Thu, 07-30-2009 - 1:25pm

I've been

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 07-30-2009 - 1:33pm


I'm a ft WOHM, and that pretty much describes me.

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Registered: 03-06-2009
Thu, 07-30-2009 - 1:33pm

yeah I think the key is knowing your self, setting your priorities and making life work for you -- I tend not to be too stressed out about home stuff and cooking -- but if that were a priority for me I can see that I'd have to manage time differently.


I think the danger lies in the comparison game.

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Registered: 04-22-2009
Thu, 07-30-2009 - 3:37pm

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I think my house would be shocked if we ever approached "immaculate", lol.