Stay at home-what is next?

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Registered: 04-09-2003
Stay at home-what is next?
Thu, 07-10-2003 - 10:50am
well, I have been a SAHM for the last 8 months now- since my son was born. I have really enjoyed it, but the money is getting really tight. It was a stretch to stay home anyway, but we have done it thus far. However the stress on my husband is tremedous, which I can completley understand. So, now, I have to look for a part time job. My husband is an RN and only works 3 days per week...which is great! But, what to do. I had a great job and quit to stay home. I know this is going to sound shallow but...a part time doing what? I love a challenge and some respect. I was going to attend law school but decided that my son is my priority now in life - maybe later.

I have put everything on hold- and do love it. Sometimes I feel that the days go by so quickly and life is so short. I just traveled to my hometown and spent time with my cousins with thier babies - and realized that I wish I had some friends with the same intrests down here. My next door neighbour has a new baby and is not social...who knows? I really feel lonley latley. I use to have so many goals. Belive me I and happy with my situation, but sometimes ..who am I? I love being a mommy-it is the best thing ever!

Well, any advice would be great....does anyone else feel this way?


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 07-10-2003 - 10:54am
I think you need to post on one of the SAHM support boards.

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Registered: 06-17-2003
Thu, 07-10-2003 - 11:29am
Hi C! I just had a baby, he is now 10 weeks old. I am scheduled to go back to work in two weeks and am dreading every minute of it. I have been very career oriented since I graduated from college and was not expecting to feel that leaving my baby would be the end of the world! I have contemplated quitting work and often thought that if the need arose, I would just get a part time job if ends weren't quite meeting if I quit.

None of the part-time options I have considered would be as financially rewarding as being a lawyer or in sales (my current position), but I thought I could give Starbuck's or Home Depot a try. This might sound weird too, but if you can swing it--my girlfriend's husband picked up a paper route in addition to his technical illustrating job--you'd be amazed at how much money they make when they have enough paper routes! Even the grocery industry--if you can get hired on, most of them are union and pay benefits even if you only work 24 hours a week! Don't give up hope--there are lots of options out there. I hope you get to stay at home with your family and make a few extra dollars. Keep in touch!

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Registered: 05-20-2003
Thu, 07-10-2003 - 11:40am
Have you thought about maybe watching one or two kids in your home? Depending on the area the pay could be from 75 to 200 a week per child? Not much of an income, but enough to offset the cost of groceries, the eletrical bill, and water bill?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 07-10-2003 - 12:40pm
You make it sound so easy. Sure..just pick up a kid or two and watch them in your home and the money will just roll in.

I hate it when this is suggested as a way for a mom to sah. A person has to have a true calling to care for other people's children. It's not as easy as you might think it is.


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Registered: 11-20-2001
Thu, 07-10-2003 - 1:10pm
Very true. n/t


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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 07-10-2003 - 1:14pm
ITA! I could never be a good care way! I think MOST people wouldn't have the patience to deal with children other than their own. I think, like you say, you have to have the "calling" to care for children.

I'm not saying that most moms wouldn't do an OK job, but I would prefer somoene do better than OK. Having watched my Nanny "in action" she really has a gift with kids and with organizing and scheduling their activities. I don't think I have what it takes!

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Registered: 12-29-1999
Thu, 07-10-2003 - 1:22pm
SAHM agreeing w/you 100%! DH had an employee ask if I would become their childccare provider when his wife went back to work and I said "No way!" It takes a committment level I wasn't willing to give...right now my days are mine and my son's--we can do whatever we want w/them. Taking someone else's child into consideration would cramp our ability to go to the zoo on the spur of the moment or whatever--one of the things I love most about our current situation!

My hat is off to you, it's a calling, not a way to pick up a few bucks! Christi

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Registered: 12-29-1999
Thu, 07-10-2003 - 1:27pm
Does your local school district have an early childhood program? Our district has a ton of stuff through Parents As Teachers and we joined a playgroup through PAT. They also have tons of enrichment activities during the week--usually free! Also, you can check for a local Mom's group to network with other SAHMs.

GL to you! Christi

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 07-10-2003 - 10:04pm
well I can understand why money is tight if you're not working and dh is only working three days a week. Is he working double shifts on those days?