Staying at home a choice??

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Registered: 04-29-2007
Staying at home a choice??
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Sun, 04-29-2007 - 6:46am

The author of this article thinks most mothers go to work because they want to, not because they have to.

"Most parents from two-parent families today do have a choice when it comes to parental care. They can try and talk themselves into believing they don't, but it really boils down to priorities."

http://backofthebook.ca/living/2007/03/part-time-ophanages-part-2-job-only.html

Does anyone (other than her) really believe this? I don't know of anyone among my friends who works who wouldn't rather be staying at home with their children. But they don't have the choice!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 05-10-2007 - 1:36pm
Do you mean that during a child's first 18 years, some families may save the same amount month after month, while other families plan to accelerate savings as high school graduation draws closer?

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Registered: 12-06-2004
Thu, 05-10-2007 - 1:37pm
He is grounded until he is 18 unless he comes out now!!!!


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Registered: 07-23-2003
Thu, 05-10-2007 - 1:41pm

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 05-10-2007 - 1:41pm

<<in *your* experiences? i thought you said you've never had to/wanted to move before......but i do agree about companies buying homes. >>


No, I don't recall saying that.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 05-10-2007 - 1:42pm

Yes, they are not exactly the same, but close enough for comparative purposes.


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Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 05-10-2007 - 1:46pm

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PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 05-10-2007 - 1:47pm

Or more clearly, gossip.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 05-10-2007 - 1:50pm

That's part of it, yes.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 05-10-2007 - 1:55pm

Uh no, she posted her personal financial situation, and has done so many times. She doesnt seem to mind debating it, as she seems to bring it up quite a bit, wouldnt you say? She knows she can opt out of participating at any time, and I certainly did not start the debate.

I have not told her she needs to live her life a certain way. I have simply said that she should either learn to accept and be happy with her situation, or do something to change it (as opposed to complaining that its not possible). Life is too short, imo, for someone to not be doing what they want to do in life. I (and others) have pointed out how perhaps her own choices have helped make her dream *not possible* - nothing more.

Colored me confused here-exactly how is it that my posts to her are *rude*, yet yours to me are not? You seem quite frothed up about this, really.

Dj

"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~

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Registered: 09-14-2006
Thu, 05-10-2007 - 1:55pm

So you're credit is 100% perfect all the time? You have never decided to replace any piece of furniture or object in your house because it is older or run down and you would like to get something new? You have never put *Anything* on a credit card and have always paid cash?

From the way you are picking on Hazels choice to buy a new couch on credit it sounds as though you are trying to pass yourself off as perfect. I find it hard to believe anyone on here has never just bought something because they wanted to have something new, and put it on credit (for short term or long term).

I said I bought a new fridge and stove on credit. We couldn't afford to pay it off with cash right away so we put it on a card. It wont take me long to pay it off completely.

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