Staying at home a choice??

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-29-2007
Staying at home a choice??
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Sun, 04-29-2007 - 6:46am

The author of this article thinks most mothers go to work because they want to, not because they have to.

"Most parents from two-parent families today do have a choice when it comes to parental care. They can try and talk themselves into believing they don't, but it really boils down to priorities."

http://backofthebook.ca/living/2007/03/part-time-ophanages-part-2-job-only.html

Does anyone (other than her) really believe this? I don't know of anyone among my friends who works who wouldn't rather be staying at home with their children. But they don't have the choice!

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iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2005
Sun, 05-13-2007 - 5:51pm
My dh and I were making only making $26,000 combined when we first got married. At that time we purchased all our furniture new.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2005
Sun, 05-13-2007 - 5:56pm
We were in such heaven in just being there that I didn't think much of it-lol! We did see that our floor was getting all new mattresses so I just have to think that we got ours before we got on the cruise!
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2005
Sun, 05-13-2007 - 5:57pm
I would not buy used though so to me this is an investment. How do I know that 10 years had not been put into the furniture already and only has 10 left? I would rather know that I have awhile on it so I don't have to go and spend more money.
Just my preference I guess.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sun, 05-13-2007 - 6:30pm

I'm with you. When you are an adult, you live on your own and you make do with what you have until you can afford better. You don't go running to mommy and daddy for money.

When I was just out of college I bought a used mattress for $30 from the guy who was moving out from the apartment I was moving into. Didn't kill me. In fact, it didn't even bother me -- I was happy to have a mattress with an actual boxspring and bedframe! Honestly, I don't get this whole entitlement thing where people think they are "supposed" to have things. You get things as you can afford them.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-22-2000
Sun, 05-13-2007 - 6:36pm
ITA!

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-14-2006
Sun, 05-13-2007 - 6:39pm

LOL

You just said in a previous post that you bought all new furniture when you got married.

You have already replaced that new furniture.

So obviously your brand new furniture did not give you 20 years of service. It probably gave you no more years of service then used furniture would have.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-14-2006
Sun, 05-13-2007 - 6:45pm

I found it funny that she saw runny to mommy and daddy as a solution.

It ok to live on you own if you cannot afford a new mattress if you run to mommy and daddy to run for the solution to the problem but not ok to live on your own if you cannot afford a new mattress but find another solution to the problem. LOL.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2005
Sun, 05-13-2007 - 7:09pm
The only reason I got new furniture is because my dog destroyed it. There would have been nothing wrong with it today.
My kitchen set was fine and I sold it at a garage sale. We had to get something larger as our family got bigger.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2005
Sun, 05-13-2007 - 7:14pm

Talk about your snotty little judgments, but whatever. Sometimes, people do what they have to do.

I'm sorry, but I have to agree and don't find it snotty at all. My dh and were engaged for 2 years. I wanted to finish college and we wanted to save money for furniture and our honeymoon. If you can't afford a $500 or sometimes less mattress, how CAN you afford to live on your own?

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2005
Sun, 05-13-2007 - 7:15pm

"How can you see if it is clean? All sorts of body fluids one cant see in a mattress."

I TOTALLY agree with you. Did you ever watch that show on MTV with the girls going into the guys rooms with one of those lights on the bed? GROSS!!

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