Staying at home a choice??

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Registered: 04-29-2007
Staying at home a choice??
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Sun, 04-29-2007 - 6:46am

The author of this article thinks most mothers go to work because they want to, not because they have to.

"Most parents from two-parent families today do have a choice when it comes to parental care. They can try and talk themselves into believing they don't, but it really boils down to priorities."

http://backofthebook.ca/living/2007/03/part-time-ophanages-part-2-job-only.html

Does anyone (other than her) really believe this? I don't know of anyone among my friends who works who wouldn't rather be staying at home with their children. But they don't have the choice!

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Registered: 05-09-2006
Tue, 05-15-2007 - 1:15am
That's an interesting point. I really can't come up with too many things I can say about EVERY single human being I know (beyond bodily function kinds of things). I wonder what it must be like to only know such a tiny little subsection of people that they ALL live in exactly the same way, making exactly the same financial decisions, etc. It's difficult to fathom.
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Registered: 05-09-2006
Tue, 05-15-2007 - 1:16am
::::gasp!!!:::: You mean you didn't automatically change out all the sinks in the house when you moved in?????? ;)
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Registered: 05-09-2006
Tue, 05-15-2007 - 1:32am
Well, if it's that important to you, why don't you teach your kids not to destroy one of the most durable types of floor covering that's made? I mean, really, how hard is it to cover the bottom of a chair leg with a felt tip or teach Junior to stop throwing the Tonkas onto the wood floor?
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Registered: 03-03-2007
Tue, 05-15-2007 - 6:16am

There are antiques and then there are antiques. I can't find a good link, but the trade definition of antiques includes that the piece be at least 100 years old and has something about it which is rare; it's usually a period piece. Only then would it be more valuable than a piece of recent manufacture. I'm sure I could walk into a nearby "antique" store and be overcharged for estate furniture made in the 1950's. But that doesn't make the object an antique.

http://www.reference.com/search?q=antiques

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-03-2007
Tue, 05-15-2007 - 6:22am
I'm with you on this too. No matter how much money we might ever have, I will always prefer new over even the most expensive antiques. I've been in old houses with lovely old furniture and antiques which complement the interior architecture but I know I still would have decorated differently with new things.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-03-2007
Tue, 05-15-2007 - 6:33am
Then prove it. Until you can, you're no more credible than she.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-03-2007
Tue, 05-15-2007 - 6:39am
I agree with you on the carpet thing too! If I moved into an older home, carpets would be the first things gone. Then toilet seats. In my rental apartment days, I wouldn't have replaced or steam-cleaned carpets because those were pet-free buildings. Otherwise, I'd steam-clean apartment carpets before moving in. I think my mom lives a few towns away from you. She'd agree with you all the way. Maybe it IS a Long Island thing!
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Registered: 11-22-2000
Tue, 05-15-2007 - 6:43am
Me too.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-15-2006
Tue, 05-15-2007 - 7:25am

lucky you :). and the fact that your wood is installed *and* stained is what separates your real wood from the refurbished sorts....laminite is the flooring we have in our den and dining room. it looks like the real stuff but isn't. when we first moved here,i told our realtor i wanted a home with the *real* stuff as we had had that before. but he said something about foundation and shifting,that none of the homes have real wood. sigh.

pergo is cheap and looks cheap. blech.

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 05-15-2007 - 7:34am
HAHAHAH...I really needed that laugh this morning.
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