Staying at home a choice??

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-29-2007
Staying at home a choice??
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Sun, 04-29-2007 - 6:46am

The author of this article thinks most mothers go to work because they want to, not because they have to.

"Most parents from two-parent families today do have a choice when it comes to parental care. They can try and talk themselves into believing they don't, but it really boils down to priorities."

http://backofthebook.ca/living/2007/03/part-time-ophanages-part-2-job-only.html

Does anyone (other than her) really believe this? I don't know of anyone among my friends who works who wouldn't rather be staying at home with their children. But they don't have the choice!

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iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 05-15-2007 - 2:49pm
I was trying to be sympathetic, not pitiful. Sorry you didn't see it that way.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-26-2006
Tue, 05-15-2007 - 3:14pm
Yes it does. But in reality nothing except food and water is necessary.
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-04-1997
Tue, 05-15-2007 - 3:16pm
Bingo. Well, maybe some sort of shelter from the elements. Maybe a safe place to sleep,away from the elements and predators. That's why it's absurd to claim that a mattress is a necessity.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-26-2006
Tue, 05-15-2007 - 3:20pm

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Nope that isnt necessary either. Nothing other than food and water.

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I disagree. I think if you take the term necessary in a general sense it makes sense. I find it necessary to have a firmer mattress to sleep well. Others may not. I think that is the general terms to which we use necessary. Although I do understand what you are saying.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-10-2007
Tue, 05-15-2007 - 3:24pm
Shelter is pretty much a necessity. Many a person has died from exposure, either to the heat or the cold.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-15-2006
Tue, 05-15-2007 - 3:25pm

um,we can afford a mattress therefore it is a necessity for sleeping..at least for my family it is. we can afford a car therefore it is a necessity for transportation,too....if we couldn't afford these things then the word,necessity would be defined differently.

to each,really their own. :)

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-10-2007
Tue, 05-15-2007 - 3:29pm

So, anything that can be afforded is a necessity? Shoot, guess my trip to Cozumel is a necessity. Guess a new diamond ring would be a necessity. Or shoot, a fur coat is a necessity.

BAER

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-04-1997
Tue, 05-15-2007 - 3:30pm
I'm thinking that in some cases, a safe place to sleep, away from the elements and predators, may be more immediately necessary than food and water. If it goes down much below freezing at night, and you don't have some kind of shelter from the elements, it really doesn't matter how much you had to eat or drink before bed, you are NOT going to make it to your next meal.
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-04-1997
Tue, 05-15-2007 - 3:32pm

You can afford a mattress and a car, and they are nice to have. But if other people can't afford them, and don't have them, and manage to survive, then they are luxuries, not necessities.

Completely off-the-subject, but have you ever played a card game called Fizzbin?

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-27-2005
Tue, 05-15-2007 - 3:33pm

Ummm, nearly all Swedish houses and apartments have wood or laminate floors. A few area rugs might be scattered about, but I have never actually seen wall-to-wall carpeting. Most Swedes I know get icked out by the thought of that much carpeting, it just can't be kept as clean as a wooden floor.

Of course, most people also wear socks or house shoes indoors.

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