Staying at home a choice??

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Registered: 04-29-2007
Staying at home a choice??
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Sun, 04-29-2007 - 6:46am

The author of this article thinks most mothers go to work because they want to, not because they have to.

"Most parents from two-parent families today do have a choice when it comes to parental care. They can try and talk themselves into believing they don't, but it really boils down to priorities."

http://backofthebook.ca/living/2007/03/part-time-ophanages-part-2-job-only.html

Does anyone (other than her) really believe this? I don't know of anyone among my friends who works who wouldn't rather be staying at home with their children. But they don't have the choice!

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iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 05-15-2007 - 4:40pm
Yes, I got it. My daughter is almost 9. She is not interested in it even though I have asked her.
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Registered: 01-10-2007
Tue, 05-15-2007 - 4:41pm
dammmmmit. You did it again.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 05-15-2007 - 4:42pm

I know quite a few and none of them have that philosophy.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 05-15-2007 - 4:42pm
Used things are sometimes more expensive than new things because they are better built. When I go to new furniture stores, the fiberboard stapled onto the back of new dressers and whatnot is just depressing. But if I plunk down serious money, (and I have), I can get a dresser made 30-40 years ago which is rock solid and gorgeous.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 05-15-2007 - 4:44pm
I agree. Never said new furniture was built better. I just said I prefer new to old. My daughter has my bedroom set and it is made sooo much better than what you shop for now. It is probably 30 years old.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 05-15-2007 - 4:54pm

My 9 and 11 year are eagerly awaiting the next installment.....


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 05-15-2007 - 4:55pm
If you agree then you should be able to understand why a middle class or affluent adult would buy used furniture (the technical defintion of antique being >100 yrs old, as another poster noted). It's BECAUSE there is so much awesome, well built, gorgeous stuff from the 40's, 50's and 60's that I can finally afford, that I spend money on this used furniture. Like you, I also want my house to look good. But I have a different aesthetic and am glad that I'm finally in the financial shape needed to make that retro kitchen (except for appliences0 a reality. Your dismissal of used furniture as something cheap for the very young seemed to be based on a misunderstanding of what is out there and what people want their homes to look like. I intensely dislike the contemporary look and am glad to finally have enough money to avoid it.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 05-15-2007 - 4:59pm

If you can afford it, then it's a necessity?


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 09-14-2006
Tue, 05-15-2007 - 5:04pm

I had my family help out with a few purchases when I first started out on my own. My father went halvsies with me on a new mattress for my first apartment (The frame was a hand-me down but still good). He and my grandfather bought a good set of tires for my very first car (used) - which I bought on my own.

I don't see anything wrong with family helping out. It's not like I had to ask for help with rent or food. But their help made the transition easier into life on my own once I moved out.

Those are the only two things off the top of my head I can think of that my family helped out on.

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Tue, 05-15-2007 - 5:07pm

>>the fiberboard stapled onto the back of new dressers and whatnot is just depress<<
oh lordy. talk about real wood that really isn't. lol.....i too am disappointed by what furniture stores carry in the line of wood products. i buy broyhill but it isn't the stuff my dad has quality lines of,either. and broyhill is considered a pretty decent line of furniture,nowadays. sigh.

 

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