Staying at home a choice??
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Staying at home a choice??
| Sun, 04-29-2007 - 6:46am |
The author of this article thinks most mothers go to work because they want to, not because they have to.
"Most parents from two-parent families today do have a choice when it comes to parental care. They can try and talk themselves into believing they don't, but it really boils down to priorities."
http://backofthebook.ca/living/2007/03/part-time-ophanages-part-2-job-only.html
Does anyone (other than her) really believe this? I don't know of anyone among my friends who works who wouldn't rather be staying at home with their children. But they don't have the choice!

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Now why would you do that-wouldn't you want your guests to know your house has life??!!
My family and friends KNOW we live in the house. It doesn't have to LOOK like it. That is a big excuse people use when they don't feel like cleaning.
I am the second generation on my mom's side that shares your philosophy. My Grandma was one of those women who cleaned constantly and was constantly worried about the state of her home. This apparently scarred my Mom for life but I reaped the benefits. My mom's childhood memories seem to consist of large chunks of watching her Mom clean, doing her own cleaning chores, and being scolded for making the slightest mess. In the grand tradition of "my kids will NEVER have a childhood like that", she developed a lighter approach to cleaning and also a lighter hand on scolding about mess making.
In all my life, I've only been to one house I thought was alarming. This was a highschool friend. I was horrified at the state of his house and it's not easy to horrify a 16yo whose own mom is pretty laid back about cleanliness. But his house was in a state where these days, it's entirely possible that CPS would be called. I used to rib him about his dirty clothes but after visiting him, I dropped that instantly and felt really bad about having said things, even in a joking way between friends. It robably hurt him but he didn't let on. Anyhoo, having been in his house, I now laugh inwardly when people say "don't come just yet, the house is terrible right now". I doubt that even in their messiest days that they could come anywhere near his house. Scratched floors...pshaw!!
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