Staying at home a choice??

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Registered: 04-29-2007
Staying at home a choice??
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Sun, 04-29-2007 - 6:46am

The author of this article thinks most mothers go to work because they want to, not because they have to.

"Most parents from two-parent families today do have a choice when it comes to parental care. They can try and talk themselves into believing they don't, but it really boils down to priorities."

http://backofthebook.ca/living/2007/03/part-time-ophanages-part-2-job-only.html

Does anyone (other than her) really believe this? I don't know of anyone among my friends who works who wouldn't rather be staying at home with their children. But they don't have the choice!

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Registered: 07-23-2003
Wed, 05-16-2007 - 8:42am

<I understand that but if your floors are very scratched and you consider that lived in and don't try and fix, I can't see how the rest of the house would not be like that. >


But it is all about priorities.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-23-2003
Wed, 05-16-2007 - 8:46am

<I am not trying to be rude. I think it is an excuse to have a "lived in" house.>


Who said anything about trashing the house.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-16-2007 - 8:55am
So how do you and DH work it out?

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Wed, 05-16-2007 - 9:02am

while i will not repeat my mom's standards as they come from the june clever,meticulous generation,i do follow her guideliens wrt getting my kids to clean up after themselves and keeping a pretty ok home,myself. my mom's famous line was something to the tune of "when you leave your home,leave it in a condition where you wouldn't be embarrassed if somebody came over unexpected.." and that's one thing that always stuck as pretty important.

sure life is messy but that mess s/b picked up,too..yea,it is a *priority* thing.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-15-2006
Wed, 05-16-2007 - 9:05am
omg....that is awful,so sad.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-23-2003
Wed, 05-16-2007 - 9:08am

I am not saying that I don't have rules and that my dd never picks up after herself.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 05-16-2007 - 9:13am
Lived in does not equal trashed. You are talking in extremes.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-10-2007
Wed, 05-16-2007 - 9:17am

Judgmental much?

Geesh, just because people disagree that brand new carpets and toilet seats and mattresses are a must doesn't mean they are slobs that don't discipline their children and leave their house a wreck. There IS a middle ground you know ...

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Wed, 05-16-2007 - 9:19am
when i hear lived in,i think of a house with a family still living there,maybe a couple dogs,lots going on.....a less lived in home are the empty nesters across the street whose baseboards and mirrors are well polished,whose carpet is always clean and not a single thing out of place.

 

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Registered: 05-09-2006
Wed, 05-16-2007 - 9:35am

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Sounds like a description of your kids in your house. Didn't you claim your children have scratched your floors with the carelessness with which they play (and implied, ignore your efforts to teach them not to)?

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