Staying at home a choice??

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Registered: 04-29-2007
Staying at home a choice??
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Sun, 04-29-2007 - 6:46am

The author of this article thinks most mothers go to work because they want to, not because they have to.

"Most parents from two-parent families today do have a choice when it comes to parental care. They can try and talk themselves into believing they don't, but it really boils down to priorities."

http://backofthebook.ca/living/2007/03/part-time-ophanages-part-2-job-only.html

Does anyone (other than her) really believe this? I don't know of anyone among my friends who works who wouldn't rather be staying at home with their children. But they don't have the choice!

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Wed, 05-16-2007 - 11:55am
Best of luck on the quitting smoking! I take no offense. I know everyone's homes are different. It is just that we do not have that big of a house so I can't have the clutter all around.
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Wed, 05-16-2007 - 11:56am
My sister just got one of those. They would probably be worth it for you.
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Wed, 05-16-2007 - 12:03pm

When I woh, before kids, I would do it on a weeknight or two. When I woh with children, it was under DH's perview. When I sah with small kids, it was under DH's perview. Now that I am at home when they are in school. I do it when they are in school.

Laundry is one of the jobs that flows back and forth as our situation changes. DH is still able to put in a load and fold and put away from time to time. It is fairly fluid.

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Wed, 05-16-2007 - 12:06pm

we don't have a designated sheet changing day,either. this past weekend,we had company over for dd2's first communion..i waited until the last minute to change those sheets for them. and while i changed them again after they left,i won't remember to do it again until i just do. two weeks,i think. lol.

love the free tuesdays. cute idea.

 

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Wed, 05-16-2007 - 12:11pm
off topic -- Liza made HER first communion on May 5th --what fun. She was soo pretty and did such a great job. but i think she was more excited last sunday at mass for her "second communion" as she called it... congrats to your daughter!

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-16-2007 - 12:23pm
Its funny that I am quiting or atleast trying to stop because we never smoke in the house, never in the car and not around our kids.
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Wed, 05-16-2007 - 12:23pm
Actually, it started because every other Wednesday, the cleaning service changes the sheets and the Wednesdays we don't have the service, we do it on our own.

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Wed, 05-16-2007 - 12:26pm
I 'sort of' remember to do it every other week.... 'sort of' ;-)

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Wed, 05-16-2007 - 12:30pm

Not laura, but I'll answer ...

We do it Sat/Sun (either/and/or). The washing/drying part, while it takes all day for the machines to run, doesn't take a lot of time on my or Allen's part. 5 min per load to start the washer and less than 5 to transfer from washer to dryer. So that part, for all 6 or so loads, takes less than 45 min of our time. The folding takes maybe 1/2 an hour per load, but we split that, and often do it while catching up on a tv show or watching a movie. So that 3 hours (max) serves as double duty. The kids put their own away, so that saves he and I some time as well.

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Wed, 05-16-2007 - 12:33pm

We can adjust our water level and wash length too. but it still runs longer to run 2 1/2 loads than a full one.

We have about 5-6 loads a week (1 whites, 1 coloreds, 2 darks, 1-2 towels/sheets). Sometimes more, depending on towel/sheet usage for the week. Sometimes we'll run one load during the week if there's a particular item someone needs.

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