Staying at home a choice??

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Registered: 04-29-2007
Staying at home a choice??
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Sun, 04-29-2007 - 6:46am

The author of this article thinks most mothers go to work because they want to, not because they have to.

"Most parents from two-parent families today do have a choice when it comes to parental care. They can try and talk themselves into believing they don't, but it really boils down to priorities."

http://backofthebook.ca/living/2007/03/part-time-ophanages-part-2-job-only.html

Does anyone (other than her) really believe this? I don't know of anyone among my friends who works who wouldn't rather be staying at home with their children. But they don't have the choice!

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 05-10-2007 - 1:03pm
As an intellectual property attorney, I can't tell you how much those "purse parties" bug me! And I absolutely don't get it -- what fun could it be to carry a purse that is a fake and is essentially stolen property???
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 05-10-2007 - 1:06pm

Because there are so many other variables involved?


Honestly though, I don't know anyone who has the similar goals and similar income as well as similar other variables in order to accurately compare and contrast.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 05-10-2007 - 1:08pm
Okay, now this is getting interesting.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 05-10-2007 - 1:09pm

I saw that response....but don't you think, just based on the different debates on this issue that there is a wide range of goals when it comes to college funds out there?


For example while I think that in general you and I have similar goals, although I don't think we have charted the same path to reach that goal, so while we have similar age children and similar goals (no clue about income) since we are both still on the path so to speak, comparing would be pointless.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 01-10-2007
Thu, 05-10-2007 - 1:10pm
There are 87,389 different online calculators out there. Why would I think anyone I know uses the same one I do?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 05-10-2007 - 1:12pm
Do the answers vary wildy among calculators?

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Registered: 10-17-2003
Thu, 05-10-2007 - 1:16pm
Uh, no. What started this whole entire thing was Hazel told someone that she wanted to be a sahm but couldn't. DJ came back with a whole laundry list of reasons why she could make it work if she really wanted to. If she just gave up her things she could sah, that is how this began. Hazel THEN said something about not wanting to sah if it meant living off of CC's or WIC. The fact that her statement created this monster thread is absurd for the simple fact that the whole thing started with someone telling her she could sah if she gave said CC's up.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 05-10-2007 - 1:18pm

Okay here are yours based on sonofadams...


1) Their income is different. None of our close friends expect to quality for any aid, so all of us are trying to save 100% of all college expenses.


2) We may have differing goals, in terms of parental assistance. See answer to 1) above.


3) The girls could easily go to schools that have widely different tuition. As I mentioned, we're all saving for the best two or three in state schools.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 08-27-2005
Thu, 05-10-2007 - 1:19pm
Actually, with engineers it like some kind of highly infectious disease. They don't flock together, they absorb anyone within a certain radius into the world of engineering. There was the case of my poor BIL, who started out singing in a punk rock band and earned a living as a pizza thrower. The poor sap married my sister (from a family of engineers) and that was that...he's now a perfectly respectable engineer. Dh only managed to escape that fate because we lived enough thousands of miles away.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 05-10-2007 - 1:20pm

Part of this is history of past debates.


PumpkinAngel

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