This is my life. DH has work- a career he loves and finds fulfilling. I am able to stay home and educate DS. He doesn't always get what he wants to do but if it works with the family, why not? Heather
um... I realize I'm missing alot b/c i have a few posters on ignore --
and I respect lois's scholarship immensely and enjoy our religious discussions b/ c I find them fascinating -- but I don't know that Lois understands my own religion better than I do -- maybe she does but on an academic level... not a practicing level.
Why is it wrong for his wants to be taken into consideration and met? He isn't asking to go to Disney World. He's not asking all the times ( or most of the time)for things that cost money. He's asking to go to the pond and to have friends over and to be outside. He's asking to go and swim. I suggested to his grandparents to get him a quarry membership so we can swim. Obviously going swimming is good with me. He's asking for things that take time. I have the time. He's a kid who works hard the rest of the year, manages his chores and practice times and is pretty neat in his interests. DH and I think he deserves the down time and a say in how his time is spent. I really don't get what is wrong with that.
I guess his wants and our lifestyle coincide so I don't see where it is an issue. Some of it might be that I have one child. It's not where 2 or more kids wants and/or needs conflict.
I'm curious how old your kids are and how many you have. How do you decide what is done on the weekends or your free days with them? Their wants aren't taken into consideration? Heather
Realism is understanding that, while you have seen that your children's school has a bullying problem, with all of its students lined up and waiting to see the principal, you don't know what goes on in my children's school.
"know that I DO solicit input from my kids, but in the end, in my family, the adults make the decisions. We may make some that they don't like, but that's our right and privilege, and the kids may have just have to suck it up sometimes."
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um... I realize I'm missing alot b/c i have a few posters on ignore --
and I respect lois's scholarship immensely and enjoy our religious discussions b/ c I find them fascinating -- but I don't know that Lois understands my own religion better than I do -- maybe she does but on an academic level... not a practicing level.
Why is it wrong for his wants to be taken into consideration and met? He isn't asking to go to Disney World. He's not asking all the times ( or most of the time)for things that cost money. He's asking to go to the pond and to have friends over and to be outside. He's asking to go and swim. I suggested to his grandparents to get him a quarry membership so we can swim. Obviously going swimming is good with me. He's asking for things that take time. I have the time. He's a kid who works hard the rest of the year, manages his chores and practice times and is pretty neat in his interests. DH and I think he deserves the down time and a say in how his time is spent. I really don't get what is wrong with that.
I guess his wants and our lifestyle coincide so I don't see where it is an issue. Some of it might be that I have one child. It's not where 2 or more kids wants and/or needs conflict.
I'm curious how old your kids are and how many you have. How do you decide what is done on the weekends or your free days with them? Their wants aren't taken into consideration? Heather
Realism is understanding that, while you have seen that your children's school has a bullying problem, with all of its students lined up and waiting to see the principal, you don't know what goes on in my children's school.
Can you give me an example? Heather
"know that I DO solicit input from my kids, but in the end, in my family, the adults make the decisions. We may make some that they don't like, but that's our right and privilege, and the kids may have just have to suck it up sometimes."
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