You're welcome to come along; I won't even make you drive :) (You might have to hold a sewing machine or two in your lap if I find some yard sales, tho ;)
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The horrifying consequences of underaged
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You realize, don't you, that now when I read your posts, it's Tim Gunn's voice in my head, right? (If you wanted to slip in the occasional "Make it work!" I'd squee ;)
************ Kitty
The horrifying consequences of underaged
baking cannot be overstated.--me, because there's nothing you can't learn from teh
interwebz
My kids are 10 and nearly 14. They, too, work hard in school and bring home straight A's. That does not entitle them, in my mind, to dictate how their summers or weekends will be spent. Their wants are taken into consideration within reason, but in the end, the adults in this house make the final decisions. We usually take the needs and wants of EVERYONE in the house into account when making those decisions, not just the kids' wants. My older wants to go to the school dance tomorrow night. That is completely fine. This weekend, they both were interested in doing two major things. I told them they had to choose one.
Kids want a LOT of things. Letting family life be dictated by their wants is not the way that I choose to parent.
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Why hide your light under a bushel of bears, I ask you?
Sure. My older son asked if we could bring his friend with us on the activity we are planning for Sunday. I said no, and I had about 5 reasons why. He is disappointed, but oh well.
But I'm curious why you need an example of when a parent gets the final say?
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Why hide your light under a bushel of bears, I ask you?
And because you as a parent would have done something differently, you cannot believe that any other parent would not?
My parents are nothing like you, if your personality on this board is any indication. It does not surprise me in the least that your choices under the circumstances would have been different.
My parents took the approach they did because it was important to them that I learn to try to understand other people's perspectives and put myself in other people's shoes. They wanted me to grow up with a higher priority for compassion than fairness. Personally, I find it atrocious that parents run to the principal's office every time their precious child's feelings are hurt, without taking the time to work with the child and teach them how to understand and respond to such situations. If you would rather save yourself time with 5 minutes in the principal's office, good for you. Personally, I am glad my parents chose to take the time to help me understand.
As far as my memory suddenly becoming crisp, I have no idea what you are talking about. I went to a Catholic church, I heard a sermon. I was surprised by the fact that they took communion on a regular Sunday. My parents showed me the confessional booths and I saw people come out of them. what is so odd that I would remember these things? Or are you just decided that the fact that I did not put details into the first post, but did into the second to be a change in story. Because in case you didn't notice, in between those posts, you made a post specifically calling out and challenging my parents' action, and IMO mischaracterized them. So I added details in an effort to clarify.
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Kitty
The horrifying consequences of underaged
baking cannot be overstated.--me, because there's nothing you can't learn from teh
interwebz
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Kitty
"If you can't annoy somebody with what you write, I think there's little point in writing."-- Kingsley Amis, British novelist, 1971 t .
You realize, don't you, that now when I read your posts, it's Tim Gunn's voice in my head, right? (If you wanted to slip in the occasional "Make it work!" I'd squee ;)
Kitty
The horrifying consequences of underaged
baking cannot be overstated.--me, because there's nothing you can't learn from teh
interwebz
************
Kitty
"If you can't annoy somebody with what you write, I think there's little point in writing."-- Kingsley Amis, British novelist, 1971 t .
As I said, different parenting philosophies.
My kids are 10 and nearly 14. They, too, work hard in school and bring home straight A's. That does not entitle them, in my mind, to dictate how their summers or weekends will be spent. Their wants are taken into consideration within reason, but in the end, the adults in this house make the final decisions. We usually take the needs and wants of EVERYONE in the house into account when making those decisions, not just the kids' wants. My older wants to go to the school dance tomorrow night. That is completely fine. This weekend, they both were interested in doing two major things. I told them they had to choose one.
Kids want a LOT of things. Letting family life be dictated by their wants is not the way that I choose to parent.
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Why hide your light under a bushel of bears, I ask you?
Why hide your light under a bushel of bears, I ask you?
Sure. My older son asked if we could bring his friend with us on the activity we are planning for Sunday. I said no, and I had about 5 reasons why. He is disappointed, but oh well.
But I'm curious why you need an example of when a parent gets the final say?
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Why hide your light under a bushel of bears, I ask you?
Edited 5/15/2009 1:36 am ET by mozart_sonata
Why hide your light under a bushel of bears, I ask you?
And because you as a parent would have done something differently, you cannot believe that any other parent would not?
My parents are nothing like you, if your personality on this board is any indication. It does not surprise me in the least that your choices under the circumstances would have been different.
My parents took the approach they did because it was important to them that I learn to try to understand other people's perspectives and put myself in other people's shoes. They wanted me to grow up with a higher priority for compassion than fairness. Personally, I find it atrocious that parents run to the principal's office every time their precious child's feelings are hurt, without taking the time to work with the child and teach them how to understand and respond to such situations. If you would rather save yourself time with 5 minutes in the principal's office, good for you. Personally, I am glad my parents chose to take the time to help me understand.
As far as my memory suddenly becoming crisp, I have no idea what you are talking about. I went to a Catholic church, I heard a sermon. I was surprised by the fact that they took communion on a regular Sunday. My parents showed me the confessional booths and I saw people come out of them. what is so odd that I would remember these things? Or are you just decided that the fact that I did not put details into the first post, but did into the second to be a change in story. Because in case you didn't notice, in between those posts, you made a post specifically calling out and challenging my parents' action, and IMO mischaracterized them. So I added details in an effort to clarify.
"lord i am not worthy to receive you but only say the word and i shall be healed"
yea.
Meeting the needs and wants of 4 is much more challenging than those of 1 and that's true no matter what work status. Heather
before DH converted,he was perfectly fine with the traditions of the RCC mass too.
sometimes,no alot of times,he walked up for a blessing because he respected the table enough to still include himself there.
why far out?
is it your opinion that one must participate in something ONLY if the SAME
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