There are already enough children in the world.

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There are already enough children in the world.
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Thu, 09-19-2013 - 3:59pm

Here's an article where 5 women explain why they chose not to have any children.  http://shine.yahoo.com/parenting/5-women-explain-why-chose-not-kids-165300500.html

Did you ever think about not having children?  Like some of the women, would you have had more time to enjoy your husband?  Would you be divorced? Wink  Basically, why did you have children instead of not having children?

If you don't have time for the whole article, some of the reasons included 1.) having a fulfilling life already, 2.) growing up with dysfunctional parents or other close relatives/friends who were miserable because they had kids, 3.) getting to sleep in late, travel the world, not spend the money on kids, 4.) a biggie ~ not feeling the maternal impulse.

Would you life be as happy/fun/fulfilled if you hadn't had children?

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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 11:01am
No, my decision not to go to Egypt when we had the chance was heavily influenced by the presence of our small children. If we hadn't had the children, we might have made a different decision.
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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 11:06am
Thardy, I did not say that being with my kids is synonymous with doing boring things. I think you're smart enough to know that. I said that part of parenting involves drudgery/boring things. I don't know of any real parent who doesn't admit that certain parts of the deal are really not very much fun. Other parts are, of course, fun, fulfilling, stimulating, pride-inducing, whatever.
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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 11:28am

Oh and back to the FB discussion. I guess I am not the only one that uses it as a communication tool as I am glad I went on last night and saw that they told everyone for the car wash to bring your own water bottle and they would have a refilling station. 

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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 11:30am

The post about the question was to you, Morty. You said my "statement" using the word "frightening" made no sense. I pointed out it was a question and referred you to a dictionary, if necessary.

Why would it be frightening. I don't understand why having a cup of tea and reading a book would be frightening. Can you please explain as I can't give you a yes or no answer to that without an explanation. 

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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 11:31am

Like your Egypt trip, it can be "saved" for later.  It's not something to blame on the kids.

Exactly. She originally said she did not want to go because she had kids and they might be orphans. I wonder if she did NOT have kids if she would have STILL gone?

Bord, can you please answer THAT question.

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Registered: 09-15-2013
Sat, 09-21-2013 - 11:33am

What does a plane crash have to do with the Holloway case?  

Meaning ANYTHING can happen ANYWHERE.

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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 11:37am

...and yet, here you were this morning and last night.  ;)

Yep, 12 hours ago which would be 11:35pm, after going to a football game (having fun with my kids) and then this morning BEFORE I go to the car wash with my family. 

And?

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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 11:38am
Well, there you go, Morty. You evidently don't find it frightening. Thanks.
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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 11:38am

Well, I haven't seen any evidence of that here on this board and again...what part of I don't want to have a fb interaction with you is still unclear?  Please stop asking.

NO ONE asked you to be their FB friend. 

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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 11:40am

Yes, Thardy, risks vs benefits. Planes crash, but rarely. Therefore, I often choose to fly. I decided not to accept a trip to Egypt because of heightened risk at the time. If I hadn't had kids, I probably would have gone. The risk was still rather small, statistically, and I would be willing to risk my own life, but adding in the dactor of leaving the kids orphaned meant, to me, that the risks outweighed the benefits. That's the way statistics work.

Wow so the risk was not worth YOUR life even if you did NOT have kids. It couldn't have been THAT much of a risk then. 

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