There are already enough children in the world.

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There are already enough children in the world.
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Thu, 09-19-2013 - 3:59pm

Here's an article where 5 women explain why they chose not to have any children.  http://shine.yahoo.com/parenting/5-women-explain-why-chose-not-kids-165300500.html

Did you ever think about not having children?  Like some of the women, would you have had more time to enjoy your husband?  Would you be divorced? Wink  Basically, why did you have children instead of not having children?

If you don't have time for the whole article, some of the reasons included 1.) having a fulfilling life already, 2.) growing up with dysfunctional parents or other close relatives/friends who were miserable because they had kids, 3.) getting to sleep in late, travel the world, not spend the money on kids, 4.) a biggie ~ not feeling the maternal impulse.

Would you life be as happy/fun/fulfilled if you hadn't had children?

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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 11:40am
As I've said repeatedly throughout the thread, Morty, I can't be sure what we would have decided sans the presence of our young children. I think we might have gone, but we might have gotten spooked and decided not to.
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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 11:41am

Have a great time! :)

Thanks, I plan to Laughing

DS afternoon game got changed to the gym inside the Y b/c of the rain, that should be interesting. 

Ugghh....I think our rain is going to wait until tonight. 

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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 11:42am

 Also, wouldn't going to a HS football game be an excellent example of parenting drudgery?

Not to me, I LOVE.IT. I go to every home game and ocassionally travel to away games. 

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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 11:46am

Did you have 2 dogs barking too!?  Ugh.  No, maybe if I got up later I would have had the dog next door and the 3 across the way lol.

I hope you fell back asleep for your fun day today.  I had about an hour and a half more sleep before I had to go and pick her up. lol.

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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 11:47am
"NO ONE asked you to be their FB friend. " See, that's just not true. Cuz I did!
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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 11:48am

It's not, lol!  If someone gives you 2 free tickets to one of the cheap cruise ships notorious for bad plumbing with a Greek crew known for abandoning ship at the slightest test, you simply don't take the tickets!  And since I know you, you would certainly never blame your kids.  I would blame the wholly inconsiderate donor ~ with "friends" like that.....

lol. Never Carnival and they own the ship that crashed also.

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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 11:49am

So it had nothing to do with your having children.

Isn't that amazing? lol. Now it was NOT because of the kids but because of what was going on. Why even bother to mention that then. Use a REAL example. 

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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 11:51am

Yes, it is simple math. Having children had made me less spontaneous, more risk averse, and less "fun" than I otherwise would have been this last twenty years. More of an ant, less of a grasshopper. I am not sure that is a bad thing, as I said, someone had to be a grown-up. And ultimately, I do not believe that being more "fun" would be more fulfilling at the end of it all. I do not believe the purpose of life on earth is to have as much fun, or be as much fun, as is humanly possible. So, I'm good.

That's the problem. People think that you need to be "too" grown up after having kids. As long as you are a responsible person who takes care of their children in every way needed, there is NO reason you can't STILL have a little fun. 

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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 11:52am
As I said, Morty, without kids, my life is my own to risk or not, but the responsibility that comes with deciding to raise kids, IMO at least, would make it irresponsible to accept that level of risk with small children. I'm not seeing the problem with understanding that.
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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 11:52am

Well, there you go, Morty. You evidently don't find it frightening. Thanks.

I don't know, maybe I do. You need to explain what you meant.

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