There are already enough children in the world.

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There are already enough children in the world.
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Thu, 09-19-2013 - 3:59pm

Here's an article where 5 women explain why they chose not to have any children.  http://shine.yahoo.com/parenting/5-women-explain-why-chose-not-kids-165300500.html

Did you ever think about not having children?  Like some of the women, would you have had more time to enjoy your husband?  Would you be divorced? Wink  Basically, why did you have children instead of not having children?

If you don't have time for the whole article, some of the reasons included 1.) having a fulfilling life already, 2.) growing up with dysfunctional parents or other close relatives/friends who were miserable because they had kids, 3.) getting to sleep in late, travel the world, not spend the money on kids, 4.) a biggie ~ not feeling the maternal impulse.

Would you life be as happy/fun/fulfilled if you hadn't had children?

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Registered: 09-15-2013
Sat, 09-21-2013 - 11:53am

As I've said repeatedly throughout the thread, Morty, I can't be sure what we would have decided sans the presence of our young children. I think we might have gone, but we might have gotten spooked and decided not to.

So you should have NOT used this as an example. Simple and plain.

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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 11:54am
I did not say that a parent could not have a "little fun." Most patents, myself included, gave a great deal of fun. It's just often slightly less than you would have had without kids.
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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 11:56am
Really, Morty, the presence of our small children was the deciding factor in us deciding not to go to Egypt that year, which makes it entirely relevant to the conversation. Perhaps you will never understand that, or perhaps you choose not to understand that. Either way, it's hardly worth this much of your time trying to puzzle out.
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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 11:59am
What I meant, Morty, was to ask whether you find that scenario frightening. I do not know that there is to explain.
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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 12:00pm

I did not say that a parent could not have a "little fun." Most patents, myself included, gave a great deal of fun. It's just often slightly less than you would have had without kids.

Well sorry to hear that then. You need to MAKE fun in your life, not blame others for having less of it. 

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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 12:01pm

Really, Morty, the presence of our small children was the deciding factor in us deciding not to go to Egypt that year, which makes it entirely relevant to the conversation. Perhaps you will never understand that, or perhaps you choose not to understand that. Either way, it's hardly worth this much of your time trying to puzzle out.

No, it is puzzling to me why you would use that as an example when it is not something you might have done without kids either.

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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 12:02pm

What I meant, Morty, was to ask whether you find that scenario frightening. I do not know that there is to explain.

WHY would it be frightening?

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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 12:03pm
I am not "blaming" anyone for less fun. As I said, I am actually happier and more fulfilled for having had less fun. It is a life I deliberately chose. I do not believe the purpose of life is to maximize fun.
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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 12:04pm
I am not sure why it would be frightening, but some folks seem to go to a great deal of trouble to avoid it, so I thought perhaps it might be.
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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 12:06pm
Oh, Morty, I don't know how to explain in any simpler terms that going to Egypt that year really might have been something we would have chosen to do dans children. Perhaps it's time to move to a simpler topic, one with fewer variables. Ketchup or mustard?

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