There are already enough children in the world.

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There are already enough children in the world.
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Thu, 09-19-2013 - 3:59pm

Here's an article where 5 women explain why they chose not to have any children.  http://shine.yahoo.com/parenting/5-women-explain-why-chose-not-kids-165300500.html

Did you ever think about not having children?  Like some of the women, would you have had more time to enjoy your husband?  Would you be divorced? Wink  Basically, why did you have children instead of not having children?

If you don't have time for the whole article, some of the reasons included 1.) having a fulfilling life already, 2.) growing up with dysfunctional parents or other close relatives/friends who were miserable because they had kids, 3.) getting to sleep in late, travel the world, not spend the money on kids, 4.) a biggie ~ not feeling the maternal impulse.

Would you life be as happy/fun/fulfilled if you hadn't had children?

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Tue, 09-24-2013 - 8:08pm

litlmiss_cantbewrong wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">savcal2011</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&gt;&lt;div class="quote-author"&gt;&lt;em class="placeholder"&gt;bordwithyou&lt;/em&gt; wrote:&lt;/div&gt;I guess your drive must be something else if you would not allow someone who has been up for 22 of the last 24 hours a little rest and relaxation before demanding that he service you. Curious, would you at least allow him to shower first?&lt;/blockquote&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Reminds me  of the guidance that military wives are given when their husbands are coming home from deployment. They are highly encouraged to not initiate sex ... for several days. &lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>Ok, I never got that advice.  I do think it's a good idea to not spend 24/7 with your spouse after a long deployment, spouses not used to living together for a year and then they come home and don't have work for a few days...can be a recipe for disaster.  But that's my own observation.</p>

In retrospect, I should have said "sometimes" given that advice .... which I think later I corrected, if not directly, then at least in indirectly.

 

 

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mortyswife wrote:
<p>Are you still going on about this savcal? Lol. You dont really know what happens behind closed doors so your "experience" with reading anything is basically a mute point.</p>

I guess you are totally disregarding the fact that you brought the subject back up, you implied exactly that about Bord's personal life...so 0 for 2 and then toss in the "mute" and that's a strikeout looking.

PumpkinAngel

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mortyswife wrote:
<div style="color:#111111; font-family:Arial, Helvetica, Helvetica, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size:16px; font-style:normal; font-variant:normal; font-weight:normal; text-align:left; text-indent:0px; text-transform:none; background-color:#ffffff"><div><ul></ul></div></div><div style="border-bottom-color:#cccccc; border-bottom-width:1px; border-bottom-style:solid; color:#111111; font-family:Arial, Helvetica, Helvetica, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size:16px; font-style:normal; font-variant:normal; font-weight:normal; text-align:left; text-indent:0px; text-transform:none; background-color:#ffffff"><div><div><div><blockquote><div style="font-weight:bold"><em>mortyswife</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:13px"&gt;I found thardys comment interesting, falsely directed at bord of course since it wasn't her who introduced the topic but you....how unkind of her to say such things about a "friend".&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:13px"&gt;I don't CARE what the HECK Thardy said, that was just UNCALLED for. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote><p>Why yes, many of her posts are uncalled for, I agree.</p><p>Glad you agree with me against Bord.</p></div></div></div></div>
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I didn't mention Bord, why are you making that up?

PumpkinAngel

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mortyswife wrote:
<p><span>She didn't say they were private.</span></p><p>These are available to the public?</p>

Sav isn't public, I think you need to reread what occured as you have missed quite a few details.

PumpkinAngel

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savcal2011 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">mortyswife</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;span&gt;She didn't say they were private.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;These are available to the public?&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>They weren't classified documents, so under FOIA, yes.  And in my particular experiences, they weren't even government produced documents. </p>

I'm lost as to how a friend sharing with another friend is "public".

PumpkinAngel

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Tue, 09-24-2013 - 9:51pm

Yep, you can go right to hell. According to the Bible, anyway.

Nice backpedaling and yes, you did say it twice but tried to "cover" yourself not to get TOS. 

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Registered: 09-15-2013
Tue, 09-24-2013 - 9:52pm

"Some classes give handouts. And?" And it is easy to imagine where the paperwork SavCal has seen might have come from. Why would someone show another person, who is not in the military, this paperwork. Why would they care?" Any number of reasons, really.

Please name some.

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Tue, 09-24-2013 - 9:54pm

1. That would be "moot" point.

Did that make you feel better about yourself? BAER.

2.  It was contextually relevant to the conversation at hand. 

Seriously? Bawahhhaaa...

3. I wasn't bringing it up again - I was responding to YOU.   Heck, I didn't post about it for hours and hours and hours ... until you did again

You didn't STOP talking about it.

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Tue, 09-24-2013 - 9:57pm

Ok, I never got that advice.

Oh no? It sounded like from Savcal and Empty that ALL military wifes were told this. THANK.YOU.

I do think it's a good idea to not spend 24/7 with your spouse after a long deployment, spouses not used to living together for a year and then they come home and don't have work for a few days...can be a recipe for disaster.  But that's my own observation.

Wouldn't you be in a "honeymoon" phase for awhile? I lived with a couple that the dh worked away for 2 weeks and were home for 2 weeks. For the first week it was wonderful. After that they would fight for almost the rest of the time he was home.

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Tue, 09-24-2013 - 9:59pm
So only the person who has returned can initiate? Is that what you are trying to say?</p>

Again, it isn't a RULE or an ORDER.  anyone CAN initiate.  They are simply sometimes advised not to.

I didn't say rule in this post and yes, you DID say the woman are advised not to initiate. Please make up your mind.

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