There are already enough children in the world.

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There are already enough children in the world.
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Thu, 09-19-2013 - 3:59pm

Here's an article where 5 women explain why they chose not to have any children.  http://shine.yahoo.com/parenting/5-women-explain-why-chose-not-kids-165300500.html

Did you ever think about not having children?  Like some of the women, would you have had more time to enjoy your husband?  Would you be divorced? Wink  Basically, why did you have children instead of not having children?

If you don't have time for the whole article, some of the reasons included 1.) having a fulfilling life already, 2.) growing up with dysfunctional parents or other close relatives/friends who were miserable because they had kids, 3.) getting to sleep in late, travel the world, not spend the money on kids, 4.) a biggie ~ not feeling the maternal impulse.

Would you life be as happy/fun/fulfilled if you hadn't had children?

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Tue, 09-24-2013 - 10:01pm

mortyswife wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px">Ok, I never got that advice.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px">Oh no? It sounded like from Savcal and Empty that ALL military wifes were told this. THANK.YOU.</span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size:13px">I do think it's a good idea to not spend 24/7 with your spouse after a long deployment, spouses not used to living together for a year and then they come home and don't have work for a few days...can be a recipe for disaster.  But that's my own observation.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px">Wouldn't you be in a "honeymoon" phase for awhile? I lived with a couple that the dh worked away for 2 weeks and were home for 2 weeks. For the first week it was wonderful. After that they would fight for almost the rest of the time he was home.</span></strong></p>

What you don't understand that "working away for 2 weeks" or being on travel status for 3-4 weeks isn't the same as being deployed in a military mission or being in combat status for 6 months isn't even remotely the same thing.

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Tue, 09-24-2013 - 10:01pm

"anyone CAN initiate"

The suggested guidelines are that the person returning should be the one initiating for the first few weeks, anyway

So which one is it? BAER.

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Tue, 09-24-2013 - 10:02pm

As I stated already, because my friends were confiding in me, sharing with me, in preparation for their husbands' returns.

So they showed you their paperwork from the military? lol

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Tue, 09-24-2013 - 10:03pm

They weren't classified documents, so under FOIA, yes.  And in my particular experiences, they weren't even government produced documents. 

You remember word for word on these documents too? lol. How many years ago was this, 15 + years ago, correct?

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Tue, 09-24-2013 - 10:04pm

In retrospect, I should have said "sometimes" given that advice .... which I think later I corrected, if not directly, then at least in indirectly.

 Do you backpedal that much at the gym? BAER.

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Tue, 09-24-2013 - 10:06pm

What you don't understand that "working away for 2 weeks" or being on travel status for 3-4 weeks isn't the same as being deployed in a military mission or being in combat status for 6 months isn't even remotely the same thing.

Ummm...where was I comparing that? I was telling a story. 

Again, the "honeymoon" phase is for many other things and yes, people away from others for a longer period of time DO have that. 

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Tue, 09-24-2013 - 10:09pm
"anyone CAN initiate" The suggested guidelines are that the person returning should be the one initiating for the first few weeks, anyway. So which one is it?" Are you seriously thinking those two statements are contradictory? Obviously, they recommend, but not require, that the recently-returned deployed spouse be the one to initiate sex. It's just a suggestion, not a requirement.
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Tue, 09-24-2013 - 10:12pm

"anyone CAN initiate" The suggested guidelines are that the person returning should be the one initiating for the first few weeks, anyway. So which one is it?" Are you seriously thinking those two statements are contradictory? Obviously, they recommend, but not require, that the recently-returned deployed spouse be the one to initiate sex. It's just a suggestion, not a requirement.

So basically this ENTIRE sub-thread is USELESS. Undecided

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Tue, 09-24-2013 - 10:15pm
Yep, you can go right to hell. According to the Bible, anyway. Nice backpedaling and yes, you did say it twice but tried to "cover" yourself not to get TOS. ----------------------------- I said the Bible says you can go to hell for lying twice, yes. Once because I was telling Thardy, and once because you asked for clarification.
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Tue, 09-24-2013 - 10:17pm

Yep, you can go right to hell. According to the Bible, anyway. Nice backpedaling and yes, you did say it twice but tried to "cover" yourself not to get TOS. ----------------------------- I said the Bible says you can go to hell for lying twice, yes. Once because I was telling Thardy, and once because you asked for clarification.

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