There are already enough children in the world.

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There are already enough children in the world.
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Thu, 09-19-2013 - 3:59pm

Here's an article where 5 women explain why they chose not to have any children.  http://shine.yahoo.com/parenting/5-women-explain-why-chose-not-kids-165300500.html

Did you ever think about not having children?  Like some of the women, would you have had more time to enjoy your husband?  Would you be divorced? Wink  Basically, why did you have children instead of not having children?

If you don't have time for the whole article, some of the reasons included 1.) having a fulfilling life already, 2.) growing up with dysfunctional parents or other close relatives/friends who were miserable because they had kids, 3.) getting to sleep in late, travel the world, not spend the money on kids, 4.) a biggie ~ not feeling the maternal impulse.

Would you life be as happy/fun/fulfilled if you hadn't had children?

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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 10:25am

mortyswife wrote:
<p>Wish I could continue with this lovely discussion but I have to get ready for a car wash. lol. Don't have time to sit around and complain how "less" fun my life is. I am going to go MAKE fun as I usually do <img src="/forums/sites/all/libraries/tinymce/jscripts/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-laughing.gif" alt="Laughing" title="Laughing" border="0" /></p>

...and yet, here you were this morning and last night.  ;)

PumpkinAngel

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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 10:25am

bordwithyou wrote:
Friendship sometimes is exhausting and difficult. Most things that are worthwhile involve a degree if difficulty, I find.

I really don't know what to say.  That is just so foreign to me, I can't relate.  I'll give you that extended family can be exhausting.  But I didn't choose them.

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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 10:26am

mortyswife wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px">Because of the constant made up comments. Again, I have no interest in facebook with you, what part of that is still not clear after all of my comments?</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px">Bawahhhaaa...I tell the truth. No need to lie. Yes, I CAN do things in life that others say they can't. Shrug. I have posted my fb status for you :)</span></strong></p>

Well, I haven't seen any evidence of that here on this board and again...what part of I don't want to have a fb interaction with you is still unclear?  Please stop asking.

PumpkinAngel

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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 10:28am
Yes, Thardy, risks vs benefits. Planes crash, but rarely. Therefore, I often choose to fly. I decided not to accept a trip to Egypt because of heightened risk at the time. If I hadn't had kids, I probably would have gone. The risk was still rather small, statistically, and I would be willing to risk my own life, but adding in the dactor of leaving the kids orphaned meant, to me, that the risks outweighed the benefits. That's the way statistics work.
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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 10:29am
"Remember the Holloway case in Aruba.. I think that part of the world drew tourism many times over after that b/c of all the publicity. Chance of crime is more likely to happen here less the cozy midwest!" ------------- Bord was talking about terrorism. There was a period when Jihadists were deliberately targeting tourists, preferably Americans, in Egypt. Here is one example: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Luxor_massacre
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mortyswife wrote:
<p>Wish I could continue with this lovely discussion but I have to get ready for a car wash. lol. Don't have time to sit around and complain how "less" fun my life is. I am going to go MAKE fun as I usually do <img src="/forums/sites/all/libraries/tinymce/jscripts/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-laughing.gif" alt="Laughing" title="Laughing" border="0" /></p>

Have a great time! :)

DS afternoon game got changed to the gym inside the Y b/c of the rain, that should be interesting. 

 


 


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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 10:32am
"I didn't have any problems understanding the issue and if I am traveling out of the US, I always check the state deparment website for possible travel alerts." --------- Forget planning trips, how about just reading the paper?
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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 10:32am

bordwithyou wrote:
I thought about the possibility of my kids being early orphaned because at the time we were offered the trip to Egypt, American tourists were being murdered there. It didn't stem worth the risk to me at the time.

How considerate your donors were.  It's like offerering someone now 2 tickets and hotel to Syria.  Kinda meaningless.  And nothing to do with children ~ child-free couples simply wouldn't go.  I'm just not seeing the "sacrifice because of the children" angle.

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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 10:34am
"I do think most people are current enough with the state of the world and recent history to remember the tourist massacres in Luxor fifteen or so years ago. It's not exactly esoteric knowledge. I don't really think it's incumbent on a poster to offer a lesson on world history, whatever to make sure every reader is up to speed on what's really common knowledge." ------------------- Seriously! I admit to being slightly aghast that people consider it completely normal and acceptable not to have a clue what goes on in the world. Also, wouldn't going to a HS football game be an excellent example of parenting drudgery?
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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 10:36am
Well, Thardy, no one asked you to see any angle at all. I was explaining my reasoning about my life. You're free to make different decisions about your life.

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