There are already enough children in the world.

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There are already enough children in the world.
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Thu, 09-19-2013 - 3:59pm

Here's an article where 5 women explain why they chose not to have any children.  http://shine.yahoo.com/parenting/5-women-explain-why-chose-not-kids-165300500.html

Did you ever think about not having children?  Like some of the women, would you have had more time to enjoy your husband?  Would you be divorced? Wink  Basically, why did you have children instead of not having children?

If you don't have time for the whole article, some of the reasons included 1.) having a fulfilling life already, 2.) growing up with dysfunctional parents or other close relatives/friends who were miserable because they had kids, 3.) getting to sleep in late, travel the world, not spend the money on kids, 4.) a biggie ~ not feeling the maternal impulse.

Would you life be as happy/fun/fulfilled if you hadn't had children?

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Registered: 09-15-2013
Sat, 09-21-2013 - 8:00pm

Have fun! 

Thanks. The kids had a ball and my pictures on FB show how much fun my hubby had too lolol.

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Registered: 10-23-2001
Sat, 09-21-2013 - 8:01pm

thardy2001 wrote:
<p>Here's an article where 5 women explain why they chose not to have any children.  http://shine.yahoo.com/parenting/5-women-explain-why-chose-not-kids-165300500.html</p><p>Did you ever think about not having children?  Like some of the women, would you have had more time to enjoy your husband?  Would you be divorced? <img src="/forums/sites/all/libraries/tinymce/jscripts/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-wink.gif" alt="Wink" title="Wink" border="0" />  Basically, why did you have children instead of not having children?</p><p>If you don't have time for the whole article, some of the reasons included 1.) having a fulfilling life already, 2.) growing up with dysfunctional parents or other close relatives/friends who were miserable because they had kids, 3.) getting to sleep in late, travel the world, not spend the money on kids, 4.) a biggie ~ not feeling the maternal impulse.</p><p>Would you life be as happy/fun/fulfilled if you hadn't had children?</p>

I took it as her excusing away more fun b/c she had kids.  But I agree with you, a fun person, fun times are irregardless of family dynamic IMO, to excuse whatever in your life away b/c of something else - esp your children is pretty sad to me. 

 


 


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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 8:02pm
I am sorry that you don't understand how a person could be happier and more fulfilled after doing something difficult and worthwhile, but not necessarily "fun." I don't want to stop having fun either, but I don't think the purpose of life is to have fun. I don't think I am going to meet my creator and have to answer for not thinking every moment of parenting was a bundle of fun. He knows how grateful I am for my children and the care I took to raise them.
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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 8:03pm

Good for you!  I didn't even understand the question, lol.  I LOOOVE watching older dd play school sports now.  I'm so jealous you get to watch swim meets.  I just love the thought of swimming in the winter, and I never had the opportunity to be on a swim team.

Luckily swimming will be done by the winter but it is still nice and I do go to every home meet. 

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Registered: 10-23-2001
Sat, 09-21-2013 - 8:05pm
That's good. Yea, enjoying a video - DS and DH wanted World War Z so that's what we're watching then Guilt Trip which I heard is pretty funny, Lol.

 


 


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Registered: 09-15-2013
Sat, 09-21-2013 - 8:06pm

No, Morty, I just thought it would be nice to talk about something that you are interested in for a change.

Can you please quote what this goes to.

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Registered: 01-08-2009
Sat, 09-21-2013 - 8:06pm
Thats so interesting, Morty, that you've now learned to cherish quiet times with a book and a cup of tea. Why, just last week you said you would NEVER choose a book or reading over socializing, and even implies there was something wrong with someone who would. Congratulations! I think you'll really appreciate the balanced approach to life!
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Toggling b/w both sites as we "speak".

 


 


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Registered: 09-15-2013
Sat, 09-21-2013 - 8:07pm

but I don't think the purpose of life is to have fun

What is life WITHOUT fun? 

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Oh, Morty, sorry. You said I was being mean and making fun of you for your choice of fluff topics. No, I just brought up ketchup and mustard because they seem to be something you are interested in, and obviously calculated risk as a conversational topic was going nowhere.

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