There are already enough children in the world.

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There are already enough children in the world.
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Thu, 09-19-2013 - 3:59pm

Here's an article where 5 women explain why they chose not to have any children.  http://shine.yahoo.com/parenting/5-women-explain-why-chose-not-kids-165300500.html

Did you ever think about not having children?  Like some of the women, would you have had more time to enjoy your husband?  Would you be divorced? Wink  Basically, why did you have children instead of not having children?

If you don't have time for the whole article, some of the reasons included 1.) having a fulfilling life already, 2.) growing up with dysfunctional parents or other close relatives/friends who were miserable because they had kids, 3.) getting to sleep in late, travel the world, not spend the money on kids, 4.) a biggie ~ not feeling the maternal impulse.

Would you life be as happy/fun/fulfilled if you hadn't had children?

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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 9:42am
No, it was not every weekend I was doing "less fun" kid stuff. And remember I didn't say life was "no fun." I said "less fun," Even if you do "less fun" stuff one weekend a year with kids than you would do without, that is still "less." That is the way math works,
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mortyswife wrote:
<p style="font-size:13px">You were out until midnight last night? <strong>11pm, went to bed at 12</strong></p><p style="font-size:13px">You had a glass a wine on the porch? <strong>Yep</strong></p><p style="font-size:13px">You are comparing a cruise to a trip to Egypt?  <strong>It is a trip WITHOUT kids OUT of the country.</strong></p>

I'm not sure that I believe one or two...but on number 3?  You don't realize there is a big difference between taking a cruise and traveling to Egypt?

PumpkinAngel

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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 9:45am
Yes, I tend to be "less fun" when I am doing boring things or exhausting things than when I am feeling stimulated and relaxed. I don't think that is unusual in human beings. That is the way biology works.
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mortyswife wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px">I thought about the possibility of my kids being early orphaned because at the time we were offered the trip to Egypt, American tourists were being murdered there. It didn't stem worth the risk to me at the time.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px">What a leap. NOTHING happens anyplace else?</span></strong></p>

Talk about a leap.

PumpkinAngel

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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 9:46am

No, it was not every weekend I was doing "less fun" kid stuff. And remember I didn't say life was "no fun." I said "less fun," Even if you do "less fun" stuff one weekend a year with kids than you would do without, that is still "less." That is the way math works,

You need to find the fun in everything. Yes, I didn't find it fun to get up at 5:15 this morning but then I went back to bed lol. I wouldn't consider myself, as a whole, LESS fun though. 

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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 9:48am

I'm not sure that I believe one or two...but on number 3?  You don't realize there is a big difference between taking a cruise and traveling to Egypt?

Oh I am sorry, didn't realize GOING OUT OF THE COUNTRY was such a big difference.

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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 9:49am
I think in making any decision, you weigh risks and benefits. When the State Department is urging Americans not to travel to a particular area, the risk of going to that place is higher than normal. The possible benefits of the trip would not have been worth the risk to me. It seemed rather irresponsible at the time. It still does.
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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 9:50am
mortyswife wrote:
<p style="font-size:13px">You were out until midnight last night? <strong>11pm, went to bed at 12</strong></p><p style="font-size:13px">You had a glass a wine on the porch? <strong>Yep</strong></p><p style="font-size:13px">You are comparing a cruise to a trip to Egypt?  <strong>It is a trip WITHOUT kids OUT of the country.</strong></p>

I'm not sure that I believe one or two...but on number 3?  You don't realize there is a big difference between taking a cruise and traveling to Egypt?

What don't you believe about 1 or 2? 1. We went to a high school football game last night. I usually go to bed between 11-12 every night anyway. 2. My dh and I always sit on the porch at night after the kids are in bed. Do you find that odd? 

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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 9:51am

Yes, I tend to be "less fun" when I am doing boring things or exhausting things than when I am feeling stimulated and relaxed. I don't think that is unusual in human beings. That is the way biology works.

Oh I forgot, you also find hanging out with friends exhausting too. I guess it wouldn't be much different with your kids.

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I can stay up until midnight and get up at 5:15 once in awhile, particularly when I can go back to bed later. I can't stay up late and get up in time to dtive my son to work by 4:30 on a regular basis and go to work and function effectively. Biology again.

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